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    Default Dating: One at a time, or multiple?

    As many of you have read from earlier posts, I am single, having gotten out of my LTR (five years) one year ago and gone through all my grieving and all that. I have just recently felt ready to date again.

    So: how do people date these days? One at a time? Or multiple "irons in the fire?"

    I was all set to do the "one at a time" thing and people told me that was old school, and people date many at once now.

    So now, we have to define dating! I guess for me dating = getting to know someone. For others, dating means sex.

    So if you date around, does that also mean sleep around?? I could not do that.

    Hmmm... There are pros and cons to both approaches.

    Would anyone here be offended if the person you were dating told you they were also dating other people?? I guess it goes back to how that person defines dating... Discuss...

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    One, please. I couldn't/wouldn't focus on more than one person at a time.

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    i don't think there's a thing wrong with it. i'm just not wired that way. i've always dated one at a time...there has been times where i was interested in more than one person but if i decide to date them i wouldn't be dating anyone else.

    and...it would have to be the same for them.
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    I think it depends on age and how serious a person is about finding their other half. When I was younger, I did date around quite a bit. I wasn't really serious about finding someone though. It was just a means to get out and have fun. There weren't any real strong bonds in place. Now, though, I'm older and getting to where I do want to meet someone and settle down. I feel as if I approach dating with a much more serious attitude now. I don't want to be wtih more than one guy at a time and I definitly wouldn't sleep with more than one guy either. It's really been just a shift in attitude for me. I also have a much more honed in idea of what I'm looking for too so I don't waste my time as much!

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    I usually date multiple people at once. (this does not mean sex)

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    If I am exploring options of a romantic relationship I'll typically focus on just one person, and I'd expect my partner to do the same.



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    One at a time.

    But then, I'm usually looking for a serious relationship rather than casual dating, and I can often tell whether someone will fit that bill within a date or two.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JocktheMotie View Post
    If I am exploring options of a romantic relationship I'll typically focus on just one person, and I'd expect my partner to do the same.
    Do you only apply to one job at a time?

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    Quote Originally Posted by jenocyde View Post
    Do you only apply to one job at a time?
    Not the same thing.

    One at a time.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lauren Ashley View Post
    One, please. I couldn't/wouldn't focus on more than one person at a time.
    Same here.
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