Thinking about it now, in addition to the verified ENFJ irl I also roommed with an EXFJ woman for 6 months (she was in nursing school, I lean more towards ESFJ than ENFJ), and my aunt who is some sort of high-falutin' EF.
They may become sadistic.
But honestly, if I am in love with an ENFJ it's EXACTLY because they are amazing AND exhausting. But if they don't like me I hate them. lol
Both. Entirely both.
I know I am a culprit of each aspect. Personally, I'm exhausting when in my own head-space. Amazing when I'm not.
I've witnessed a number of ENFJs who are exhausting because it feels as if they are too busy spending time in everyone else's head-space, and it's troublesome to watch them spin around in circles and only come out as dizzied up. At the same time, their drive to put so much of themselves forward is amazing. It can be so boundless.
Hang on traveling woman - Don't sacrifice your plan
Cause it will come back to you - Before you lose it on the man