User Tag List

First 2345 Last

Results 31 to 40 of 48

Thread: INFP females

  1. #31
    Sugar Hiccup OrangeAppled's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2009
    MBTI
    INFP
    Enneagram
    4w5 sp/sx
    Socionics
    IEI Ni
    Posts
    7,661

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Jonathanthegreat View Post
    I just like to know about people. Understand them. So when time comes in the future and I meet more of same types. I can have a better general understanding of the person. This will help me in the future to get cooperation from those when I need it. May sound a bit selfish but overall I crave TRUE knowledge, to help me with life as I slowly approach my inevitable grave.

    I'm not romantically interested in her at all but I wouldn't mind kissing her. That's about it. In all reality.......she seems a little boring. BUT I love love love her meek attitude, so hard to find people like that nowadays, especially in America.
    She already has picked up on this and that is why she is closed off & "boring". INFPs only open up when we feel emotionally safe to do so.
    Often a star was waiting for you to notice it. A wave rolled toward you out of the distant past, or as you walked under an open window, a violin yielded itself to your hearing. All this was mission. But could you accomplish it? (Rilke)

    INFP | 4w5 sp/sx | RLUEI - Primary Inquisitive | Tritype is tripe

  2. #32
    Senior Member Jonathanthegreat's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2009
    MBTI
    ENFJ
    Posts
    166

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by OrangeAppled View Post
    She already has picked up on this and that is why she is closed off & "boring". INFPs only open up when we feel emotionally safe to do so.
    lol! says you! You don't even know the girl, and you definitely cannot read minds :p

  3. #33
    Senior Member SurlyAdam's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2008
    MBTI
    INFP
    Enneagram
    5w4
    Posts
    110

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Jonathanthegreat View Post
    I just like to know about people. Understand them. So when time comes in the future and I meet more of same types. I can have a better general understanding of the person. This will help me in the future to get cooperation from those when I need it. May sound a bit selfish but overall I crave TRUE knowledge, to help me with life as I slowly approach my inevitable grave.
    I can read people in an instant, and I can only imagine that a woman's intuition is more developed than mine. She likely senses that you're being disingenuous and she's purposely remaining distant. She probably oveflowing with insight and emotion, but you won't see any of it if she doesn't trust you.

    You learn anything, like taking a genuine interest in understanding someone instead of using them as some sort of project? She's a person, not just a type.

  4. #34
    Senior Member laughingebony's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2009
    MBTI
    INTP
    Posts
    236

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by michL87 View Post
    W-o-w ... I think that's the reason she won't open up to you and is "meek." If you're not romantically interested in her, she can probably tell, and I think guys who are just interested in "getting with me" and not me as a person are a waste of my time. I wouldn't bother talking with them.
    I, like Jonathanthegreat, know an INFP female whom I desperately would like to know better. Although I hardly know her, my interest in her is definitely romantic in nature. How do INFPs generally feel about people who hardly know them being interested in them romantically? How should I approach her? I really don't talk much, and she doesn't seem to, either. Most of the time, I don't deliberately refrain from speaking; I just don't have anything to say. As such, how can I get a good conversation started? What are your experiences with INTP/INFP compatibility? These questions are directed toward anyone.

    I should probably mention that I am almost INFP, myself.

    Also, I'm sorry if it seems as though I'm hijacking your thread, Jonathanthegreat. I didn't think my questions warranted creating a new topic.

  5. #35
    garbage
    Guest

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Jonathanthegreat View Post
    lol! says you! You don't even know the girl, and you definitely cannot read minds :p
    You're looking for someone to confirm your specific reasoning as to why she won't open up to you. I don't think that's going to happen.

  6. #36
    #005645 phthalocyanine's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2009
    MBTI
    INFP
    Enneagram
    9w1 sx
    Socionics
    IEI
    Posts
    681

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by laughingebony View Post
    I, like Jonathanthegreat, know an INFP female whom I desperately would like to know better. Although I hardly know her, my interest in her is definitely romantic in nature. How do INFPs generally feel about people who hardly know them being interested in them romantically? How should I approach her? I really don't talk much, and she doesn't seem to, either. Most of the time, I don't deliberately refrain from speaking; I just don't have anything to say. As such, how can I get a good conversation started? What are your experiences with INTP/INFP compatibility? These questions are directed toward anyone.

    I should probably mention that I am almost INFP, myself.
    INFPs enjoy romantic interest and attention, generally..at least as an abstract.

    unless you as a person come off to her as very insincere, unsensitive, or callous, i'd say the playing field is at least neutral..

    books or music might be a safe bet in terms of relating. not an icebreaker topic necessarily, but something to keep in mind.

    observe her a bit (NTs are good at this) and look at details..most INFPs i know make their hobbies and habits known relatively easily without meaning to - if she is a creative type, for example, there should be something visible to give that away...instrument case, notebook, sketchbook, etc.. when you do find something to talk about, she will probably really appreciate your interest in her interests..(as long as they're earnest - if you are interested in the arts but not well read on 'em, make it known - that may be counter intuitive to an NT, but an NF will appreciate the honesty and is not disposed to look down on you for not being all-knowing! a curious and open mind appeals to an INFP more than a human database anyway).

    INTP and INFP can have similar senses of humor; both seem to have a cynical bent and an appreciation for the obscure (word of caution to any INTP interested in an INFP - just be cautious about the really politically incorrect stuff until you establish a better idea of where her boundaries are; some NFs dont like too much 'grit' - though i myself find i enjoy it thoroughly so long as it's actually funny...and i can tell the person is joking!)

    don't be afraid to laugh at yourself. self-effacing tongue in cheek comments come naturally to many NTs and in my experience NFs will always respond to these - either by laughing or with an "aww", usually both! this usually spurs some kind of conversation.. go with the tangents!



    avoid excessive shows of intellect if they are unwarranted in the conversation; INFPs hate braggarts ...and loathe insincerity (which is easy for us to pick up on)...so if being a know-it-all type is your thing, don't cut it out entirely..be yourself. just remember you're talking to an essentially feeling type. choose your words with some care.


    most INTPs and INFPs are aware of society and have some opinions about it. you may relate on some points there, especially if you're interested in ethics..

    empty compliments - avoid at all costs.

    sincere compliments - don't hesitate! (pick one and go with it though, if you heap em on there is a danger her modest/self-doubting side will surface and question it).

  7. #37
    lab rat extraordinaire CrystalViolet's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2008
    MBTI
    XNFP
    Enneagram
    5w4 sx/sp
    Posts
    2,170

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by phthalocyanine View Post
    interesting notion. i can't say it's entirely unlikely..although again i think this is all too general to jump to a conclusion.. so long as OP isn't "using her to satisfy personal curiosity" (which she probably would pick up on relatively quickly anyway) there is open potential.
    I'm sorry, do you know me IRL? Do you know what I can and can't do? Do you know my experiences with people?
    Because we are both INFP, it does not mean our abilities are the same, or even that our perceptions are similar. How ever it is very rare that I have to point this out to another INFP.
    Whatever "conclusion" I've come to is coloured by my own experience, but I've had a fair bit of experience with people who try to get figure out how I tick for the sake of it, and hoping to score some pointers for manipulation futher down the track.
    I do not think my intreptation of the OP is entirely out of bounds.
    Currently submerged under an avalanche of books and paper work. I may come back up for air from time to time.
    Real life awaits and she is a demanding mistress.

    [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]

  8. #38
    Senior Member the state i am in's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2009
    MBTI
    infj
    Enneagram
    5w4 sx/sp
    Posts
    2,460

    Default

    every infp i've ever connected with has been on a "oh you like this, me too" kind of similar art basis. working backwards you start to get a sense how someone relates to artisitic expressions and the way that organizes and represents their attitudes towards life. infps see thru people who view such aspect of life as consummables and adornments. creative self-expression and humane ways to live and self-actualization are often the coloured glues that hold them together. religion too, in whatever form that might be/take. some way of symbolizing their experience and organizing the expression of it, of connecting to meanings and places that are deeply relevant to what matters most to them, places where significant events happened, where they self-identify strongly with the depicted scene.

    art and religion are rooted in the same things. symbols used to communicate complex subjective experiences (somewhat!) objectively. to like polarize and magnetize us so we all come out the waterslide chute on the same page, are connected and basking in communion with each other, have a language of experience to communicate with, are equipped to better understand ourselves and each other better from the encounter. it's very healing. infps are custom-built for this mission. some are way more introverted and focused on their own experience and the much smaller stream of people who they encounter, others are more focused on the realm of discourse itself and contributing something authentic and innovative in a more extraverted relevant prescient to what exists now and changing it kind of way. when engaged with the mission they trample over their own meekness.

    when you have similar values and share them, it's a great thing to be a part of.

  9. #39
    Sugar Hiccup OrangeAppled's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2009
    MBTI
    INFP
    Enneagram
    4w5 sp/sx
    Socionics
    IEI Ni
    Posts
    7,661

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Jonathanthegreat View Post
    lol! says you! You don't even know the girl, and you definitely cannot read minds :p
    I think the "in my opinion" is a given
    Often a star was waiting for you to notice it. A wave rolled toward you out of the distant past, or as you walked under an open window, a violin yielded itself to your hearing. All this was mission. But could you accomplish it? (Rilke)

    INFP | 4w5 sp/sx | RLUEI - Primary Inquisitive | Tritype is tripe

  10. #40
    #005645 phthalocyanine's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2009
    MBTI
    INFP
    Enneagram
    9w1 sx
    Socionics
    IEI
    Posts
    681

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by FireyPheonix View Post
    I'm sorry, do you know me IRL? Do you know what I can and can't do? Do you know my experiences with people?

    Because we are both INFP, it does not mean our abilities are the same, or even that our perceptions are similar. How ever it is very rare that I have to point this out to another INFP.
    well, I know you no better than you know the girl in question that the OP (and both of us) were talking about..

    it seemed you were okay with interpreting this persons' actions to mirror your own based solely on her being an INFP (supposedly, according to someone else).. so why 'point [anything] out' to me..?


    my post you quoted was in response mostly to OP (not to you personally - it seems by your reply you may have taken it the wrong way)..

    i was only responding to the idea that you suggested - in a roundabout way saying it may be at play in OPs situation. i stand firm that his details provided were too scanty for a confident conclusion to be drawn. that is my opinion. yours is welcome to differ. but that doesn't make anything personal here with regard to argument.

    Quote Originally Posted by FireyPheonix View Post
    I do not think my intreptation of the OP is entirely out of bounds.
    I don't either, and i never said it was..au contraire.. in fact, the reason i quoted and responded to it was because i thought you made a good point.. i think it's insightful and quite possibly correct, but the rational side of me is/was unwilling to say so without expressing reasonable doubt (after all, it really is a very detail-deficient post we're all responding to here).
    i know i can be over-analytical and too careful with rationale at times, but i won't apologise for that...
    i will apologise for offending you if i have, however. like i said, nothing was meant personally.. i don't think i've read enough of your posts to make any judgments (or attacks!) anyway.

    next time i would appreciate being talked down to a bit less, though- if you come at people with fervor and flame right off the bat they are less likely to say "i'm sorry" and mean it.


    i'll quit the rhetoric before this thread is derailed.

Similar Threads

  1. [INFP] INFJ Male Dating INFP Female, looking for advice
    By Fine_21 in forum The NF Idyllic (ENFP, INFP, ENFJ, INFJ)
    Replies: 54
    Last Post: 09-04-2016, 11:06 PM
  2. [INFP] INTP question for INFP females
    By Evil Otter in forum The NF Idyllic (ENFP, INFP, ENFJ, INFJ)
    Replies: 9
    Last Post: 07-17-2013, 07:40 PM
  3. [INFP] How to appeal to an INFP female?
    By ColonelGadaafi in forum The NF Idyllic (ENFP, INFP, ENFJ, INFJ)
    Replies: 34
    Last Post: 03-15-2009, 08:04 AM
  4. INTP or INFP female ?
    By INTJMom in forum What's my Type?
    Replies: 59
    Last Post: 08-03-2008, 04:37 PM

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
Single Sign On provided by vBSSO