Hello all! I'm new here.
I'm an INFJ and just wanted to start a discussion about something that affects me on a daily basis- my empathic abilities. I know INFJs tend to be particularly strong in their ability to pick up other people's emotions and feelings. For me, I find this ability to be a huge burden at times. For instance, today I got a haircut and I *felt* the hairstylist had some negative feelings directed towards me and I cant stop thinking about it as ridiculous as it sounds. Because of this ability I try to create unrealistic expectations from my relationships, exerting too much energy on trying to create an ideal relationship where both sides are completely free of conflict and purely honest with each other; thinking that by doing so I can avoid picking up any negative vibes from people. Also I back when I was in college I remember sitting in class waiting for my turn to get up and make a presentation. Instead of being nervous for myself alone, I felt everyone else's nerves on top of my own creating a very overbearing feeling.
Although in my life I tend to stay firm in my convictions and proceed with things knowing that it may cause others to look at me in a less favorable light, I still cant help but torture myself by speculating and over-analyzing what their thoughts/feelings are towards me. I act like I don't care, but my mind does. Sometimes it drives me crazy since I usually end up being disappointed by others inability to meet up with my high expectations. Certain conflicts which occurred years ago continue to haunt me from time to time. Am I alone here or do fellow INFJs and other types experience similar issues? If so how do you deal with it?