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    Default How Does One Deal With Heartbreak and Is Psychological Pain Necessarily Part Of It?

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    Are you asking if there's a purely rational [no psychological pain] way to deal with an inherently emotional reaction [heartbreak]?

    Edit: It just seems like a contradiction in terms. What part of the words Heart/Break/ are you not getting? To say can you be heartbroken without being broken... is silly. Can you be sad without being sad?

    Oh you silly NTs....

    Ok.

    Well, in case you're in pain just solve everything the rational way. Tell yourself that emotions are nothing more than nervous reactions in the autonomic nervous system and ta-da!

    I'm a liar

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    Vicodin, scotch, one-night stands and punk music.

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    I think the best way to deal with heartbreak is to embrace it, figure out what it means and why you're upset, let it run its course... then let it go and move forward.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jennifer View Post
    I think the best way to deal with heartbreak is to embrace it, figure out what it means and why you're upset, let it run its course... then let it go and move forward.
    This.

    Heartbreak is a grieving process. There is no way to really avoid the pain of it as you are dealing with the loss of something important to you. The relationship, and the person you were with, have died in a way. While the person is not physically dead to you, your closeness to them is. Even if you become friends afterwards, it's still going to hurt because it will not be the same level of intimacy.
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    And that has made all the difference."

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    I think you sound ready to live.

    On your knees is the place to start. You have seen the limits of self. Now you can stand and stride forward.





    I'm sure you're sincere as you're an ENTP and incapable of irony or subtlety, but you may be elevating INFJ women to an extreme degree, though I cannot disagree with you.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Avatar7 View Post
    Shoot!
    Psychological pain is part and parcel of life. It's the way you deal with it that matters. ENTP (especially 7w8) often flee from pain, hence some of the addictive nature of our pursuits, always chasing the "fun". Compulsively even. Embracing pain is your salvation.

    Again I am reminded of the Kafka quote:

    "You can hold yourself back from the sufferings of the world, that is something you are free to do and it accords with your nature, but perhaps this very holding back is the one suffering you could avoid."
    "Create like a god, command like a king, work like a slave."

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sytpg View Post
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lauren Ashley View Post
    Taking lessons from House are we?
    House is unhealthy. Otherwise, there would be no reason to have a show. Watching healthy people live is not interesting. There is no conflict. No struggle with the darker forces.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Synarch View Post
    House is unhealthy. Otherwise, there would be no reason to have a show. Watching healthy people live is not interesting. There is no conflict. No struggle with the darker forces.
    House is REAL.... which is what we like to watch. Same with everything else; we enjoy things that can be applicable to our lives.
    [wait... we're not in the actual House thread. how'd this happen?]
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