[MBTI General] How Does One Deal With Heartbreak and Is Psychological Pain Necessarily Part Of It?

[Moiety]

Taking lessons from House are we?

Proof that that show is boring. I was simply talking about standard procedure in this kind of predicament.

 

[Synarch]

Her current of 7 if I can be a bit clearer

I think you will have to be patient. Although, what the fuck do I know? Sounds a bit ill-advised.

 

[thisGuy]

Interesting. Do you feel like you lose yourself when you do that?

i dont know

prolly not...but thats cuz i wont dwell on it or identify myself with it

if i did feel guilty and it had no immediate consequences then id be thinking, whats done is done...move the hell on....maybe even a lil proud cuz in pop culture, picking a chick up and screwing her isn't exactly looked down upon...especially when it comes to 20 yr old guys

actually, i would never feel proud and would loose all respect for anyone who did...this i know, cuz i don't seem to respect anyone who inflates their ego by the notches on their belts

 

[thisGuy]

wow, that does have a negative undertone to it...doesn't it

 

[Nyota]

this kind of post seems genuine. we are an honest breed, you know.

well, honesty is the best policy...[or something like that]

 

[Synarch]

i dont know

prolly not...but thats cuz i wont dwell on it or identify myself with it

if i did feel guilty and it had no immediate consequences then id be thinking, whats done is done...move the hell on....maybe even a lil proud cuz in pop culture, picking a chick up and screwing her isn't exactly looked down upon...especially when it comes to 20 yr old guys

actually, i would never feel proud and would loose all respect for anyone who did...this i know, cuz i don't seem to respect anyone who inflates their ego by the notches on their belts

wow, that does have a negative undertone to it...doesn't it

Yes. It sounds like it comes from a place of weakness. You might delve into it further.

 

[Qre:us]

well, honesty is the best policy...[or something like that]

How about a policy that tells you to lie? You'd suck at selling Avon products or cars.

 

[Synarch]

this kind of post seems genuine. we are an honest breed, you know.

Seemingly honest. We tend to sin through omission rather than commission. Also, ENTP are prone to exaggeration.

 

[Synarch]

This aligns and makes sense..I mean, she is all the more valuable for staying with him...This reflects on her value and what would contribute to her being a great girlfriend for me. And I can only imagine respecting her that way. So I am happy for her. They just bought a house together.

If it's meant to be, it will. It's out of my control. If it's meant to end, it will. Life is smart like that.

Yes. Do not be a spoiler in other people's lives. It is hard enough to keep a relationship on the rails without other people slavering on the margins.

 

[thisGuy]

Usually people don't admit this kind of self-destructive behavior. I admire the honesty, but are you trying to get some form of attention?

LOL...doesn't matter. take it as you will




but if you really do want to know then no, i am not looking for attention

guess i got a bit of "if you want to know the world, know yourself" sorta thing going on...yeah, i scare me too

 

[Nyota]

How about a policy that tells you to lie? You'd suck at selling Avon products or cars.

Indeed I do suck at it... maybe that's why I haven't been able to sell my POS car after months of it being listed.... dangit.

 

[Qre:us]

Indeed I do suck at it... maybe that's why I haven't been able to sell my POS car after months of it being listed.... dangit.

Allow me, and I'll give you a cut of the profits (promise )

Also, ENTP are prone to exaggeration.

I like to call it extrapolation.

 

[Lauren Ashley]

My guess is that she lived and learned a little. "Hurt people hurt people" as I've recently learned. Broken men will find a way to break others in order to feel better. It just takes a little growing up to realize this.

Yes. And it creates an inherently unequal dynamic where one is the saviour. These kinds of relationships are appealing to those that wish to "fix" people, but I'll pass. One is always giving and the other is always taking. Not my idea of a healthy relationship.

 

[Nyota]

Yes. And it creates an inherently unequal dynamic where one is the saviour. These kinds of relationships are appealing to those that wish to "fix" people, but I'll pass. One is always giving and the other is always taking. Not my idea of a healthy relationship.

If only we could have talked about this 6 months ago...

 

[Siúil a Rúin]

This aligns and makes sense..I mean, she is all the more valuable for staying with him...This reflects on her value and what would contribute to her being a great girlfriend for me. And I can only imagine respecting her that way. So I am happy for her. They just bought a house together.

If it's meant to be, it will. It's out of my control. If it's meant to end, it will. Life is smart like that.

Buying a house together is a serious commitment. I wouldn't expect such a relationship to end any time soon. Subtleties like smiles and attention are subject to wide interpretation. Entering into a significant commitment with another person like buying a house has a much narrower range of interpretations.

Would it help to identify the actual qualities in her that you are drawn to and realize that with certainty there are other women who possess the same qualities that are alone and would respond to you?

 

[Synarch]

If only we could have talked about this 6 months ago...

It is called codependency. The codependent partner is usually the "savior". It is never too late to do something about it. Get counseling or get the fuck out.

 

[thisGuy]

Yes. It sounds like it comes from a place of weakness. You might delve into it further.

i did a lil while ago...and i do every so often....i come up blank (well, conflicted) cuz im too fucking extroverted to not to care about pop culture...

care in the sense of defining pop culture according to me...but that still needs an audience and audience only pay for what they like

 

[Synarch]

Buying a house together is a serious commitment. I wouldn't expect such a relationship to end any time soon. Subtleties like smiles and attention are subject to wide interpretation. Entering into a significant commitment with another person like buying a house has a much narrower range of interpretations.

Would it help to identify the actual qualities in her that you are drawn to and realize that with certainty there are other women who possess the same qualities that are alone and would respond to you?

You are wise.

 

[Lauren Ashley]

If only we could have talked about this 6 months ago...

INFJs seem very susceptible to these types of relationships because they are so concerned with the internal well-being of others.

 

[Nyota]

It is called codependency. The codependent partner is usually the "savior". It is never too late to do something about it. Get counseling or get the fuck out.

I'm definitely the "fuck out".... lived and learned.