It is unfortunate because many of the people that I've decided to let go were very close to me once upon a time, and in a way still are. But all except one have just said "screw it, I don't need her anyway" instead of trying to understand my perspective.
Possibly. Another explanation: If Lauren is a giver, she could have drawn people willing to take advantage of her thoughtfulness and generosity. When she finally confronted the person with her needs, the taker decided the relationship wasn't 'free' anymore, and decided to move on to another sucker.
True in a way. But it's more that I'm willing to overlook many umm...personality defects, while at the same time highlighting favorable qualities in a person, so some people begin to feel comfortable that they will be accepted no matter what. They then begin to impose themselves ever and I begin to wonder about them and start the excision process. I won't follow through on it if they change their behavior. But usually it gets worse until the final straw. Then they ask themselves how I can be so absolute in my decision; well it was a long time coming.