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    Quote Originally Posted by Intricate Mystic View Post
    Dearest Synarch,
    Yes, this is, indeed the basis of trust. Thank you for your very open and honest reply to my question. I enjoy reading your wel articulated thoughts on this forum and appreciate the positive things you have said about Infj's in particular. It has been so nice to go from feeling like an oddball in the world to finding oneself not only not alone, but actually sometimes even appreciated at typology c.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lauren Ashley View Post
    People may get X-ed out of my life depending on the severity of the offense. But revenge is not my thing; it would only hurt me in the process. I don't think I "hate" anyone but there are people I choose not to associate with because they bring more grief to my life than joy.

    Exactly. I don't think I have ever taken revenge or ever hated someone but if you are a complete idiot I won't give you the time of the day. It's actually a rather logical decision.

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    Quote Originally Posted by nozflubber View Post
    Glad I read this thread; explains a lot. Need to remind myself to stay the fuck away from cute INFJ girls :P Hell is proximity to itself, afterall.
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    Quote Originally Posted by toonia View Post
    When someone hurts me I obsess about it until I can understand what happened. I internalize negativity too easily and it is my Achilles heel. I get more distant from the person, but I don't think of it as a doorslam. I also never grow tired of people. I never have them figured out. I can deliberately work at understanding someone for fifteen years and still know that i can only come within an approximation of understanding the whole of the complexity and nuance. If I saw the world like a cartoon, then yes, i would probably be able to say I had a lot figured out, but there is much more to understand than a caricature of each person. People possess a vast complexity and depth of nuance.
    +1. This is me in a nutshell. Even after being completely hurt and manipulated, I feel as though there is still some underlying truth I've yet to find. Therefore, I'm never really willing to completely shut someone out of my life or put them on some bad list.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Scarfism View Post
    When there is someone who has either done something to me or acted in a certain way towards me (unpleasant of course), I immediately put them on my "sh*t list" and from that moment on, I may go out of my way to make things difficult for them. Not in a way that it would be harmful, but I would not go out of my way for them. Are any other INFJs here that are the same way? Okay, at times, I may do something evil as revenge (as long as this does not go against my own values).
    Just please be careful. Revenge checked only by morality is a slippery slope. I've seen INFJs' moral compasses get broken under times of extreme duress, and then do some pretty horrible things as a means to questionable ends.

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    I refuse to hate.
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    St. Stephen took rocks and St. Sebastian took arrows. You only have to take some jerks on an internet forum. Nut up.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rainbows View Post
    I refuse to hate.
    Very good philosophy. I try my hardest to refuse to hate.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Nyota View Post
    Very good philosophy. I try my hardest to refuse to hate.
    Hate seems like a fire that burns you as you try to burn something else.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Intricate Mystic View Post
    This sort of thing is why I'm not sure that ENTP-INFJ matches are a good idea. I know that personally, trust has always been very important to me in relationships. I couldn't trust someone who would potentially do this.
    Then the ENTP isn't or wasn't committed. We are loyal to those we love. It's as simple as that. Truly.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Nyota View Post
    Very good philosophy. I try my hardest to refuse to hate.
    Loving, giving, doing...purveying altruistic meaning to others...Last but not least, forgiveness, to release oneself from being bound to hate...


    Doing these are some things that block out hate.
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