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[INFJ] INFJs and Hate/Revenge

Lauren Ashley

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In all honesty I think a simple apology and better behavior would do it for most people that have ever been unfortunate enough to get on it, but from my experience at least 80% of adult humans are incapable of apologizing, which is unfortunate.

:yes:

It is unfortunate because many of the people that I've decided to let go were very close to me once upon a time, and in a way still are. But all except one have just said "screw it, I don't need her anyway" instead of trying to understand my perspective.
 

93JC

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Maybe they really didn't need you. Maybe you weren't worth the trouble.
 

Lauren Ashley

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Maybe they really didn't need you. Maybe you weren't worth the trouble.

Maybe. If that's the case then so be it. But IME it is more often the case that they are too proud to admit any wrongdoing.
 

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Maybe they really didn't need you. Maybe you weren't worth the trouble.

Maybe they were assholes. Maybe they were immature. Maybe they were lazy. Maybe they didn't care. Maybe, maybe, maybe. Who knows, right?

It is worth noting which possibilities you chose to emphasize. Says a lot.
 

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Maybe they really didn't need you. Maybe you weren't worth the trouble.

Possibly. Another explanation: If Lauren is a giver, she could have drawn people willing to take advantage of her thoughtfulness and generosity. When she finally confronted the person with her needs, the taker decided the relationship wasn't 'free' anymore, and decided to move on to another sucker.
 

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I never witnessed the few infjs I know to be prone to revenge, they are more the guys that kill in the heat of the moment.

Very dangerous persons sometimes, prone to loosing their minds. I am glad I know the vulcan neck pinch :D
 

93JC

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Maybe they were assholes. Maybe they were immature. Maybe they were lazy. Maybe they didn't care. Maybe, maybe, maybe. Who knows, right?

It is worth noting which possibilities you chose to emphasize. Says a lot.

You can just call me an asshole outright you know, it won't hurt my feelings. :D
 

93JC

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I don't know why you're getting in a tizzy over it, it's not like I said "No one needs you, you're not worth the trouble."
 

Synarch

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I don't know why you're getting in a tizzy over it, it's not like I said "No one needs you, you're not worth the trouble."

No, you're too much of a chicken shit to say that.
 

Lauren Ashley

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You can just call me an asshole outright you know, it won't hurt my feelings. :D

You're not an asshole; it is a completely valid point that they may not believe that it is worth it. In fact I know it is the case at least sometimes as of course, INFJs are just so "complex."
 

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You're not an asshole; it is a completely valid point that they may not believe that it is worth it. In fact I know it is the case at least sometimes as of course, INFJs are just so "complex."

Blessed are the peacemakers.
 

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:yes:

It is unfortunate because many of the people that I've decided to let go were very close to me once upon a time, and in a way still are. But all except one have just said "screw it, I don't need her anyway" instead of trying to understand my perspective.

Pride before the fall...

Sad but true.
 

Halla74

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I perversely enjoy that we're both quoting the bible in the same thread.

It's kind of spooky in a maliciously wonderful kind of way, I think.
 

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We have weird shit in common. Are you also incredibly handsome?

Very odd commonalities indeed.
I have no opinion of my handsomeness; beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
However, I do have an over abundance of self esteem.
 

Lauren Ashley

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Possibly. Another explanation: If Lauren is a giver, she could have drawn people willing to take advantage of her thoughtfulness and generosity. When she finally confronted the person with her needs, the taker decided the relationship wasn't 'free' anymore, and decided to move on to another sucker.

True in a way. But it's more that I'm willing to overlook many umm...personality defects, while at the same time highlighting favorable qualities in a person, so some people begin to feel comfortable that they will be accepted no matter what. They then begin to impose themselves ever and I begin to wonder about them and start the excision process. I won't follow through on it if they change their behavior. But usually it gets worse until the final straw. Then they ask themselves how I can be so absolute in my decision; well it was a long time coming.
 
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