any more enfj's out there with advice? Thank you to the one female enfj who replied. I find myself attracted to ESTP females. Yet, i feel kinda like there is a slight glass wall between us to "connect" fully. not to sure of it. but yea thats what i think. funny story about estp male and ripping your clothes off lol. hope you don't take offense to that "illume"
No offense, however I do frequently test out as an ENFJ. Hence the reason for my reply. I think of myself more as an ENFP. But I do have a lot of experience in the dating/mating arena.
ESTPs = cat 5 hurricanes. haha! Just try to stop one. The brakes don't work! Compared to their force of nature, we're just little rubber bullets.
I tend to believe that STJs and SFJs are ideally suited to compliment (and anchor) their uniquely powerful personalities. I'm not implying something bad about ESTPs - on the contrary, there's really nothing like them. Granted, the dynamic might be different with you being the male and the ESTP being a female. Male ESTPs, from my experience, are nuclear powered, calm or not. Many of my male friends are ESTP, and some of them have been very kind and cavalier towards me and my sister in times of crisis.
I'd mentioned an ESTP friend of mine, a cavalier himself. He saw me crying over a break-up with someone I loved a lot, and he was just beside himself to see me in tears. A very tough guy. Ex-military. Covered in tattoos. Giving little ol' me a cuddle to comfort me and get me calm. It was very sweet. I felt a lot better for it.
They have so many contrasts and levels to their personality.
eNFJ 4w3 sx/so 468 tritype
EII-Fi subtype, Ethical/Empath, Delta/Beta
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