EIEs create their moods, more so than some of the other types.
I wish that was better elaborated on. I'm not sure what it means exactly. I *do* know that as I got older, I got less afraid and more jacked into the social structure of whatever realm or space I happened to occupying, and my mood could bring the room up or down, depending on whether I was having a terrible day or having a really good one. There was an ENTP in my social structure who did the same thing. The minute he hit the door, it was like shock paddles to the chest. The place was hopping. My effect was different, weirdly feminine - by that I mean, I seemed to cause internal motion in the female side of my male coworkers. The ENTP caused outward motion, ramped up the electricity just by being present.
When I was "okay", everyone else - psychically, emotionally - was okay too. There was ease and humor and relaxation.
When the ENTP was "okay", the physical and mental pace picked up drastically. There was competition, wit and a drive to achieve.
We generally tend to behave how those surrounding us expect us to behave. We may keep these appearances for a long time, especially if we join two circles that otherwise do not interact. Members of each circle will think differently of us, depending, in large part, on how they wish to see us. Few people in general know the true face of the EIE, and not all of those close to us necessarily do.
Doesn't everyone have different operational styles to meet certain needs? Just because you wear over-alls to the hoe down, it doesn't mean it isn't YOU in the over-alls. Do you turn your frustrated loud foul sailor mouth loose around your grandma? Do you act more serious around your humorless economics professor?
I heard a cop say that he was taught the difference between his personal face and his business face at the academy. What you are in essence isn't necessarily packaged to present to the entire world at every minute, nor is it appropriate. Do as the Romans do. Doesn't make you any less real.
It is not that we do not like people or do not want friends; most EIEs just have standards.
I do NOT understand this statement.
EIE in a good mood is nice and friendly and talkative. Asks many questions, talks whenever the group is silent for too long. Can't handle awkward silence and will say just about anything to end it. This is when they say things that give no information and don't make much sense. But it will serve a purpose as other people will start talking again. They often add short comments when they don't have anything else to say. They can easily make compliments, but those often sound like general impressions of things. "That dress... very cute! " or " Your speech was very... umm... I liked it very much and people were soooo intensely listening.". That's because emotions are often not easy to express with words.
If I see a deep Introvert going down for the count or freezing up, I do offer little prompts or words of encouragement to remove the fear or make the situation seem less frightening or dire. Sometimes a little chit chat, and I don't mean mindless prattle that makes you want to defenestrate yourself, can help someone or even yourself out of a rut. I like to connect people to their words or actions, like they've made an impact on their external environment. I don't do this for everyone. Just those who clearly need evidence of having been there, or having said something of importance.
Feedback can be a good thing.
In a bad or average mood EIEs just look very contemplative and serious. EIEs look a bit sad, because they are. One possible explanation to the sad look is that everything they see is just a fraction of what it could be.
I've been told through out my life that I have a sad face. The head nurse at the hospital, after my dad said, "My daughter is looking better, isn't she?" and she leaned close to my face, said quietly, "She has sad eyes." And then she left.
I do lament (there's that word) the things I can't get at, the people I can't get at, the things I may never be able to get to or do in my lifetime.
Everything could have been better if they had just worked harder on it! Everything that we are doing could already be better if we hadn't made any mistakes during the process. Everything that we have done could have been better and everything that we will do could be better. And if we don't do anything, we're wasting time.
I cried when I got a B in what was to be my perfect straight A report card in 4th grade. My INFJ teacher was beside himself trying to console me.
EIEs are also not necessarily outwardly happy or cheery. They can be almost always serious or detached, and may require outward stimuli to relax or loosen up. EIEs perceive the world as constantly changing, oftentimes for the worse. Therefore, society needs a mood killer so that people can finally focus on the problems.
I've been described as a coiled spring. Not to say that I make people tense or walk around ready to jump out of my skin, but I inherited a very deep intensity from my father and it acts on everything I do, even when laughing or telling a joke.
Regardless, an EIE can be identified by his relationships. EIEs have few truly close friends, with whom they share everything. Their default mood or state most likely reflects their parents ideal of a child. Few people can handle their full intensity and those with weaker constitutions tend to back away. An EIE can act in many different ways, but are usually willing to sell their soul for a friend to dump their problems on, I mean, share the load with.
I've allowed myself to vampired dry many times. It's a learning process to say no and put yourself first in the right places.
ENFjs enjoy the company of people who give off plenty of positive emotions. They like and in fact need to laugh in order to discharge the emotional energy that accumulates within. Their own emotions are of a dramatic nature, which they try hard to control. Sometimes, however, ENFjs can unexpectedly explode attracting unwanted attention to themselves.
Agree.
ENFjs often express their true opinions during conversation as they find it difficult to keep them to themselves. They will often talk to themselves even if there are many people around.
hahah, I do talk to myself.
ENFjs posses the ability to be great orators as they know how to paint speeches in many colours and how to keep the attention of the listener. Besides containing dramatic emotions, their speeches often contain sharp sarcasm and powerful bitterness. ENFjs know well how to combine humour with tragedy. As a result their narratives are always breathtaking.
I would love to be a writer. I'm too freaked out by crowds to be a public speaker.
ENFjs like to fantasise, often developing the same subject over a period of time.
Oh wow, do I do this. I can work an idea or scenario over for hours, days, weeks. Depends on how much detail my Ni can mine and process before the drill bit breaks. My Fe confirms if something "feels" right or not. I keep turning the object of my fascination around and around, looking at it from every angle, in different lights, against different backgrounds, until every last secret is given up. This is something I employ in my writing. How would X hold a pen... how would X say hello... how would X kiss Y... how does X like cold weather... Endless vistas of genesis.
ENFjs respect hierarchy and relate to people accordingly. If a person is in a lower position, their interaction can be cold and disrespectful. However, their behaviour towards someone in a higher position than themselves will be tactful and humble. They believe in the concept of leadership and leaders. ENFjs also have tendency to behave aristocratically. They can give the impression that they are from noble families. At the same time they are very polite and correct.
WHAT?
ENFjs do not like to work if someone is there, observing them.
ugh! Agreed!
ENFjs have no problems undertaking very difficult tasks and projects or working long unsociable hours. ENFjs strongly believe that human potential is unlimited. They often believe in a wide range of mystical phenomena, religion, the evil-eye and omens. They like to spend some time alone in order to contemplate life and the role of humans. "To be or not to be" is a question that ENFjs may ask themselves regularly.
Very agreed.