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    ESTJ with an INFP?

    Anyone have any experience?
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    ESTJ (m) and INFP (f) is fairly common, and can work. The ESTJ handles real world matters, and can ground the INFP while letting them float in their heads. The INFP keeps the ESTJ from overbearing themselves with stress. You sacrifice the depth of connection, though. Gender can matter because of the ESTJ tendency to respect social status and gender roles.

    There have been threads on this topic before, I'm sure a bit of searching will bear much fruit.

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    It can work just as well as any other type combination. There are good and bad to all of them, and it really comes down to less about personality type and more about willing to adjust to and meet with your partner in the middle. (And yes, there are stubborn Ps and flexible Js, it just depends on the individual)
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    My friend is INFP and very, very indecisive. I think she would go well with someone who is able to be very decisive and a quick decision maker like the ESTJ.

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    I think it would. I'm actually highly interested in meeting an ESTJ female to see how it would go.
    () 9w8-3w4-7w6 tritype.

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    Married; 20 years now. Happily.

    Although I do not "float around in my head" - working full-time, running my business and having two teenagers prevent a life as such. I'm a busy girl!

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    there's no way i could ever be with an ESTJ. My sister is that type, and if we weren't related i would probably hate her more than anything in the world




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    Quote Originally Posted by Requeim View Post
    there's no way i could ever be with an ESTJ. My sister is that type, and if we weren't related i would probably hate her more than anything in the world
    The thing is, in a friendship or lovers relationship an ESTJ wouldn't act that way. They only do that because they care (at least I think so). I don't think they are trying to be cruel. It's a huge misunderstanding, an ESTJ in a stressed leadership position or sibling rivalry position would be drastically different from one that is your friend or lover.
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