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    If I think about someone new all week without talking to that person, by the end of the week I'm bored and ready to move on. If you leave me to my own devices, I'll spend too much time imagining all the possibilities. I've already lived every possible outcome from first date to divorce to grandkids, within a week in my head, and it's no longer fun to explore reality with you. So the best thing is to make sure that I don't play it all out in my head...

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    Ledger hit upon all the fuss.

    INFJs have beer-flavored nipples.
    "The purpose of life is to be defeated by greater and greater things." - Rainer Maria Rilke

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    Quote Originally Posted by jenocyde View Post
    If I think about someone new all week without talking to that person, by the end of the week I'm bored and ready to move on. If you leave me to my own devices, I'll spend too much time imagining all the possibilities. I've already lived every possible outcome from first date to divorce to grandkids, within a week in my head, and it's no longer fun to explore reality with you. So the best thing is to make sure that I don't play it all out in my head...
    This totally made me entertain the idea that I have multiple personalities with multiple accounts for a minute there. I'm so with you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by marmandahalf View Post
    This totally made me entertain the idea that I have multiple personalities with multiple accounts for a minute there. I'm so with you.
    glad to know it's not just me, but it's also scary to know that!!

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    They're probably watching you from the window of a coffee shop
    The one that smiles at you then quietly walks away is the INFJ.
    Are you guys really that shy
    To be shy is to want to seek the person(s) out, but not have the courage
    Those quotes relate to my situation, which is as follows:

    One day I noticed a familiar face at a local grocery store. It kept me thinking for a couple of days. Then I realized it's a friend of mine from childhood, all grown up now! We haven't seen each other for like 12 years or something. Back then we were really good friends for a couple of years, but his family moved away and I never heard from him after that.

    Now, what would anyone do? Go talk to him, of course. Ask how he has been doing all these years and reconnect. Guess what I did? I started "stalking" him in an INFJ kind of way... watching him from afar... behind the shelves... and avoiding him like the plague. I'm gonna get a looney sticker on my forehead when I admit that this has been going on for the last four years now.

    It's not that I'm even that shy... but it has happened nevertheless. Last week I finally wanted to do it, so I prepared our dialog in my head in advance... but once again I just ended up escaping him.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MrRandom View Post
    Now, what would anyone do? Go talk to him, of course. Ask how he has been doing all these years and reconnect. Guess what I did? I started "stalking" him in an INFJ kind of way... watching him from afar... behind the shelves... and avoiding him like the plague. I'm gonna get a looney sticker on my forehead when I admit that this has been going on for the last four years now.

    It's not that I'm even that shy... but it has happened nevertheless. Last week I finally wanted to do it, so I prepared our dialog in my head in advance... but once again I just ended up escaping him.
    I sincerely am so curious as to what you get out of this experience. If you know that you won't speak with him, why stalk him? I am really trying to understand how this process works for you... what are the benefits vs risks?

    Also, I presume you do this with women as well? If so, which feeling is more uncomfortable: speaking to her or beating yourself up about how you didn't speak to her?

    Sorry that I'm asking so many questions, this is just so new to me...

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    Quote Originally Posted by aphrodite-gone-awry View Post
    HAHAHHAHAHA!!!!! are you serious? you are crackin me up. a month is nothing to me!! a month just sweetens thangs. are entps a tad impatient? or am i too lax?
    +bazillion

    I couldn't possibly jump into something having only known/noticed the girl from a month before. The uncertainty of how serious I am and potential to hurt her because of my vacillation prevents me from moving at too quick a pace.

    In the past, this is usually how I think about it (While this may not be logical or correct thinking to some) I can't help but want to be sure this is going to work out before I enter into that zone of vulnerability and drag her into it with me. If I'm not ready, I have no business playing with her heart.

    I realize now, thinking like that, I'm never going to start anything unless it's a 100% sure thing (no chance of me being rejected). But that means I never really go for who I want because I've always settled for the 'safe' option even though I've wanted something/someone better.

    How do I feel about all that now?
    Screw that BS.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wyst View Post
    I realize now, thinking like that, I'm never going to start anything unless it's a 100% sure thing (no chance of me being rejected). But that means I never really go for who I want because I've always settled for the 'safe' option even though I've wanted something/someone better.

    How do I feel about all that now?
    Screw that BS.
    Seriously, fuck that noise. What do you need to be ready for? If a man talks to me with that sort of intention in mind, I can smell it from a mile away - and it smells like desperation. And I know that's not your intent, right?

    A date does not mean marriage. A phone call does not end in hurt feelings. People get way too ahead of themselves - I just want to talk to the boy, not bear his kids... I want to hear him laugh. I was always told that if a man doesn't contact you, he doesn't like you. So it's nice to know that's not the case, but it makes me kinda not like him. But I'll try not to write him off so quickly, I guess... I'll wait another week.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jenocyde View Post
    Seriously, fuck that noise. What do you need to be ready for? If a man talks to me with that sort of intention in mind, I can smell it from a mile away - and it smells like desperation. And I know that's not your intent, right?
    Right - desperation is not what we operate out of. We just want to be safe. I think externally, we like to think that we're making decisions with the good of the other person in mind, when actually, we've got our own interests in mind and it's all one big contraption for self-protection (i.e. selfishness - thinking of ourselves and not the other person).

    Maybe I'm the only INFJ that sees it that way though...

    A date does not mean marriage. A phone call does not end in hurt feelings. People get way too ahead of themselves - I just want to talk to the boy, not bear his kids... I want to hear him laugh. I was always told that if a man doesn't contact you, he doesn't like you. So it's nice to know that's not the case, but it makes me kinda not like him. But I'll try not to write him off so quickly, I guess... I'll wait another week.[/QUOTE]

    Yea - what you say has a lot of truth to it. My parents and grandparents are constantly on my case that, "Asking a girl out for coffee doesn't mean you have to bring a ring with you". But honestly, because I'm constantly thinking things through so far into the future it's really hard for me to separate my initial interest of "I want to know more about this girl whom I find attractive and interesting" from FINALLY making a decision to pursue the girl - which usually means I'm OVERLY serious.

    So from both extremes - once the INFJ enters 'pursuit mode' they need to chill the eff out and enjoy the ride.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wyst View Post
    I couldn't possibly jump into something having only known/noticed the girl from a month before. The uncertainty of how serious I am and potential to hurt her because of my vacillation prevents me from moving at too quick a pace.
    Ah, herein lies the difference. INFJs see that there are different ways that it could turn out and want to lie dormant until the probable outcome becomes clear. ENTPs see the possibilities and want to jump in and try some of them out. Maybe it's that you guys trust your instincts more, whereas I want to collect data to back up my hypotheses.

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