Aw, OP, you seem to be one of those many INFPs I have seen who ends up squished under an ENFJs thumb. I have noticed among my friends and family member that the right kind of INFP often gets completely emotionally plowed over by the ENFJ in their lives. Dominant Fi and dominant Fe are very different. It can be incredibly hurtful for Fi to feel as though they're not being listened to and Fe can often seem as though it's serving some sort of emotional agenda, but it's not. Fe-Ni doesn't often realise when it's hurting someone. Let your ENFJ friends know how you feel. Cite examples of their behaviour and then (this is what usually does the job) tell them you don't want to see them for a while. Nothing snaps an Fe user to attention better than the threat of being removed from a community.