I think the issue is, we want people to act right because they want to act right, and not for any other reason. We don't want to deal with people we have to force to act right.
I let out rope the same way, Toonia. Sometimes I just go along, just to see how far they will take it, just so I can see for myself how far they will go before their own conscience or value system kicks in. Sometimes it's worth money just to watch the process.
"the crazy exchange" doesn't seem crazy to me. It will be less formal as you go along, but you get treated with kid gloves while we're examining you. We don't want to disturb your natural process.
So don't worry about taking advantage of us. We're not as dumb as we look. If it gets to be too much, we will find a way to make it stop without having to have a confrontation.