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    Artisan Conquerer Halla74's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by whimsical View Post
    Just acting out on impulses. Like sometimes I will feel like saying something, or bursting out with something crazy, but my problem is that I always take time beforehand to think in my mind how something is going to come out, and eventually it just causes me enough anxiety so that it doesn't come out or at least not the way I intended it to, you know?
    The only advice I have to give, having overcome such fears early in life myself, is "JUST GO FOR IT!"

    To hell with what anyone thinks, really. If you believe yourself to be a capable person of good intent then why not just be yourself and see what happens?

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    Eh, Whimsical, don't let these guys get you down. Seriously, I'm a complete TARD when it comes to Se, which is why sports class was an absolute nightmare and I thanked my lucky stars that I did not have sports class in high school.

    I also notice this when someone says something unexpected and I'm like a deer in headlights and think of all the brilliant things I could have said after the fact.

    It seems like an obvious answer, but the best way is simply to practice due to exposure. Teaching has helped me deal with the unexpected, for example, but I think I have handled that by training my Ne to deal with it.

    E.g. someone asks me some random thing. Brain goes into active mode thinking of possible explanations and reactions in a fraction of a second, a natural mode for me. Se dom would come right out and blurt something, and so do I, but we come from different points.

    So what I mean is, you let your other strengths compensate for your weakness until you get enough practice to develop it.

    In addition, it helps to hang out with people who possess the strengths you desire. For example, my husband has a much more strongly developed Se than I have. So what ends up happening is that we go for a walk, I'm daydreaming about crazy stuff, and he'll say, "Hey, look at that bird," or "Did you see him?" That kind of thing wakes me up. At first I'll be like "Huh, heh, uh, what...???" And then after a while I start noticing things around me by myself. Seriously, I used to not even notice the seasons changing until one day it was like BAM, holy crap, it's summer - how the hell did that happen??? Now, I tell my husband stuff like, "Look at the beautiful leaves changing." It's a gradual process, but if you always hang out with Se-tards you'll never get there.

    Hope this helps.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Halla74 View Post
    The only advice I have to give, having overcome such fears early in life myself, is "JUST GO FOR IT!"

    To hell with what anyone thinks, really. If you believe yourself to be a capable person of good intent then why not just be yourself and see what happens?

    Trrryyyyyy iiiiiiit! Yooooou'll liiiiike iiiiit!
    Seriously, Whimsical, dude, this is awesome advice. At the end of the day, no one (except maybe one or two special people) give a shit about you, so why give a shit about what other people think?

    I used to be soooo anal retentive. What will this one think? How will he react? The only person I gave a hard time was myself. Seriously, dude, no one cares. Just go out there and be nuts. I'm sure 99% of people on here think I'm a total fool. Do I care? Hell no! Why not? I'll probably never meet any of these people, and if they don't want to listen, hell, that's why God made a wonderful thing called an ignore button.

    Either people care in which case they won't think that. Or they won't care, in which case they 'press the ignore button' in real life. As long as you aren't hurting yourself or someone else, go for what you want and believe and think and screw everyone else's opinion. 'Cause the truth is, no one is obsessing like we can obsess about ourselves.
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    I was a bit like that when I was younger. Becoming anxious over your anxiety makes it worse.
    It's a good thing you think through what you are going to say. Some people are idiots and have no filter from their brain to their mouth.

    At the end of the day all you can do is spit it out and see what happens.

    You don't need to worry about what others think. If you knew how often others were thinking about you, you'd be insulted.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BlackCat View Post
    On the net there are plenty of links for developing various functions. How to Experience Different Function-Attitudes
    Ni: So I'm supposed to think this is a good way to develop functions I don't use but really this is just another proof that Lenore hates Fe.

    Actually I don't know, I'm just guessing, but it's sort of interesting to wonder which function one is actually using when one goes through those exercises.

    Te and Ni exercises are shortest. Anyone got a type on Lennie?



    But seriously, if one becomes aware of how some function is normally used, and makes a conscious effort to mimic it, does it become second nature, and actually used?

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    I wonder about that ^ myself somtimes
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    Don't be jelous cause i'm so Se-tiful.

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    wow. there it goes again, my jealousy is up
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    (Flaunts around whimsical. Dancing and eating ice cream and laughing too loud and drinking too much and soaking up the sun)

    Bet you can't!

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    every time i look at your face and your name it makes me laugh hahaha cause you are just so cute
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