I am an INFP man with an ennegrm of 4. I'm fairly midrange on the Introversion/Extroversion scale, so at times I can appear to be an extrovert. My ennegram is a 4 (individualist), but the 7 (enthusiast), 9 (peacemaker) and 2 (helper) are also strong.
Anyway, I am attracted to a female ENFP who posesses a lot of poise, self-confidence and social coordination. I think she has the same feelings for me, but like a lot of female ENFP's, I notice she can be quite the flirt. She is also involved in a long term relationship with a guy she lives with and has children together, but she gives me indications she is through wit him, but just can't find the courage to break it off. Again, another ENFP trait. This woman has a wonderful sense of humor and is popular amongt our peers. She's also pretty, so a lot of guys are always hitting on her too. This is how I noticed her more flirty side.
My problem is I'm not 100% sure she wants a romantic relationship with me or just a friendship. It's always hard to tell with a flirt.
Any advice on how I should procede with this situation? And what clues should I be looking for from her if she wants to take our friendship to a romatic level, but doesn't want to be the first to say it? Also, if we should become romantically involved, any advice on how INFP men should treat and act around a ENFP woman? What usually gives them the most pleasure in a romantic relationship and what sort of things should I stay clear away from when conversing with a ENFP female who is in her early 30s?