Hmmm, I don't really know how to answer this question or what you're looking for. I've often wondered if there's some meaningful difference in the expression of feeling or feeling itself between SFs and NFs. What I get from the attitudes people have on the forum is that NFs feel more intensely, deeply, purely, holistically, organically, or closer to the essence of whatever the feeling or emotion is. Look at what everyone is saying, there is a belief that SFs don't "get it" there is no true understanding of another person just superficial understanding only concerned with the shape and form of things but no clue on how to get inside the inner workings of another person. I don't believe this is true of course and these kinds of attitudes make me wonder how truly NFs try to understand and connect with the people around them. What I'm wondering is how can NFs hold this attitude if they have such an alleged greater capacity for understanding human nature?
I see this mostly voiced through people saying they're not able to "connect" with an SF or that the SF doesn't understand them. But then the next thought I have is do you understand the SF so well? It's like the aim isn't for mutual understanding of each other, you've got to understand ME (non-SF) in order for me to begin to understand YOU. Then I think if people understood the SF so well wouldn't the communication issues would be less of a obstacle? When you understand someone regardless of type, you'd know the ways to talk them, to reach them in a way brings clarity and not more confusion. It seems to me that there is more mutual misunderstanding than anything else, which in my mind obliterates the idea that NFs in fact do have a greater capacity to see multiple viewpoints.
And I just read what has been typed since I started this post. Regarding SFs analyzing their feelings more, it reminds me of title I glanced at a while ago called "Men Cry in the Dark." I don't think it would be that much of a stretch to say that people don't give up their most deeply held feelings on a whim or just in casual conversation. I have rarely heard someone pop out at lunch time conversation with the inner demons they're battling and honestly when it has happened there's been awkward silence, averted eyes, and foot shuffling. What type of analysis of feeling do you expect someone to give to you? Do they feel comfortable telling it to you? Yeah, I'm definitely one of those people you'll hear it is what it is from, but that doesn't mean my heart and mind wasn't churning.
NFs how many of you foster the type of relationships with people to get that level of transparency? Most of the time, people only reveal that stuff in intimate relationships, some people it takes them years to deconstruct life changing experiences and what the effects were on their psyche. Do you want someone to come out with instant perspective? LOL, I think that people are stupid and not stupid all at the same time.