In answer to the OP,
If I don't pity my own self, no one else will
Seriously, though I'm just venting, once it's off my chest it's done.
This is retrospect, to an event that happened to me recently, where in a rare moment of openess, I cracked (I'm a little stressed about what I'm going to do once my work contract ends. No-one else seems willing to employ me). Having vented, I feel much more on an even keel, and certainly clearer than I have in months, but then it has always taken a crisis for me to come into my own.
It kinda irratates me though, when people overdo the sympathy/empathy thing though. I don't need solutions...I can think of them myself, I don't need hugs and goo goo eyes either. I just need people to listen, and take my feelings on board for a bit because I don't want them muddying up the picture.
It's not so much self pity, but a means to lessen the internal pressure in the steam cooker so to speak.