Well, my mother is an ENFP and my father is an ISTP. There's four kids, Me-INFP, 24; Bro-INTP,21; Sis-ISTJ, 19; Sis-INFP, 13.
My parents were married for 25 years and were considered as having a great marriage. The problems have really begun the last 7 or 8 years, although the roots of the problems probably go back to the beginning.
Basically, my father is a live-in-the-moment, take big-risks, never-have-a-serious-conversation type of a guy. He's physically strong and has a temper, but he's a got a real sweet, kind heart. He never means harm and is quite naive, but he somehow gets into trouble with his attitude of never preparing for anything (like what he's going to say, do, or buy)
My mother is the stereotypical ENFP. She's fun, and exciting- the whole city loves her or is jealous of her. But underneath all her spunk is a really deep, sensitive, and complex personality. She uses me as her "healer" to sort out the myriads of feelings that go on throughout her day.
My mother never was able to turn to my father for anything serious. She couldn't complain. She couldn't say if she had any negative emotions during that day (and she has plenty). My father had no clue how to handle his own explosive emotions, and didn't want to hear anyone else's either.
My mother has always been the "romantic", but my father hates anything to do with romance. His idea of a mate is to have fun with them 24/7. But my mother is desparate for something deeper.
What should she do? Should she just accept that he'll always be Mr. Shallow and Simple (which my father pays for with an unwilling partner in the bedroom), or should she try and get him to be deeper and more "real". Should she give up on ever having a romantic relationship? How do an ENFP and ISTP bridge the gap?