[NF] NF's supposedly hate conflict, yet...

[DaMilkyWay<3]

NF's can at times create conflict by being too emotional or they can get passive aggressive by trying to avoid the conflict while in fact also contributing to it in a roundabout sort of way. Also NF's may be backstabbing because they dont like to confront so they can be hypocritical and fake

 

[Sparrow]

I normally try to work things out in a civil manner....but when that doesnt work out, sh*t gets crazy lol.

 

[DaMilkyWay<3]

NF's can at times create conflict by being too emotional or they can get passive aggressive by trying to avoid the conflict while in fact also contributing to it in a roundabout sort of way. Also NF's may be backstabbing because they dont like to confront so they can be hypocritical and fake and try to bring someone down rather than confronting them and getting their needs met.

You cant get your needs met if you don't ask for it. Also people wont respect you just because you are nice. Nice doesn't mean shit in this world so get over it. As long as you respect everybody you'll be fine. You don't have to be nice to everyone. Not everyone deserves for you to be nice to them but everyone deserves respect. Also if you are always worrying about being nice how do you expect people to respect you if they dont even know where you stand on an issue. By not speaking up and avoiding conflict it makes things worse..

 

[A window to the soul]

NF's can at times create conflict by being too emotional or they can get passive aggressive by trying to avoid the conflict while in fact also contributing to it in a roundabout sort of way. Also NF's may be backstabbing because they dont like to confront so they can be hypocritical and fake

... I'm careful not to do this to people I care about. That's the truth.
Backstabbing does not describe me.

 

[Sparrow]

NF's can at times create conflict by being too emotional or they can get passive aggressive by trying to avoid the conflict while in fact also contributing to it in a roundabout sort of way. Also NF's may be backstabbing because they dont like to confront so they can be hypocritical and fake and try to bring someone down rather than confronting them and getting their needs met.

You cant get your needs met if you don't ask for it. Also people wont respect you just because you are nice. Nice doesn't mean shit in this world so get over it. As long as you respect everybody you'll be fine. You don't have to be nice to everyone. Not everyone deserves for you to be nice to them but everyone deserves respect. Also if you are always worrying about being nice how do you expect people to respect you if they dont even know where you stand on an issue. By not speaking up and avoiding conflict it makes things worse..

your so right....

 

[Sparrow]

Speak for yourself.

I totally am I need to take their advice. Being in a leadership position at work is hard for me sometimes, ive gotten into it with people because of the way I approach things. I need to be more direct and not tip toe all the time.

 

[copperfish17]

You're better off with a NT enemy than a NF enemy, in my opinion.

-tremble-

 

[Hate]

NF's can at times create conflict by being too emotional or they can get passive aggressive by trying to avoid the conflict while in fact also contributing to it in a roundabout sort of way. Also NF's may be backstabbing because they dont like to confront so they can be hypocritical and fake

Sounds like ur projecting... that's the biggest sweeping generalization I've ever heard.

your so right....

 

[Arclight]

The reason I hate conflict is because it almost always gets real ugly. What does type have to do with it?

 

[Esoteric Wench]

To me, it seems like it has a lot to do with neuroticism, which is dominated, at least on this board, by NFs (judging from the FFM tests that were posted... )

(NF) -> (Female dominance) -> (Neurotic) -> Conflict

No proof though, but the conflict seems far less NF driven and far more "sensitive" and "reactionary".

Have you been over to the NT Rationale Forum? Here's my review of the INTJ Intimidation Thread.

I don't think that it's that NFs have more conflict. I think that there is a very specific flavor to the conflict they have. At its worst it has histrionic undertones. Sort of like NT conflict (and in the case above specifically INTJ conflict) has undertones of intellectual arrogance.

We're all equally idiotic. The best we can hope for is to be aware of our own idiocy and try to compensate for it.

 

[soft]

um. i avoid conflict pretty much at all costs. on the rare occassion that i actually have an argument with someone, i'm usually the first to apologize. actually the only friend of mine that causes a lot of conflict is a sensor (ESFP.. though he could be ENFP, so idk really)

 

[Billy]

Conflicts tend to be more common among Sensors than intuitors because they often dont see the big picture and end up quibbling over minor discrepancies. NFs, being the most diplomatic tend to fair best at avoiding conflicts. They, especially INFPs, are very keenly aware of what is worth fighting for. So when they decide to fight, they fight big and stand out, and because they stand out so much, it begins to appear that by their nature they have a lot to do with conflict.

I dont know if thats exactly true, the Sensors I know dont seek trouble the same way intuitive do with neurotic over-thinking of everything. They also seem happier.

 

[Virtual ghost]

The reason I hate conflict is because it almost always gets real ugly. What does type have to do with it?

 

[gigi_xo]

I avoid conflict at all costs.

I only stand up for something or someone when I'm 100% and because I am also very indecisive this almost never happens. ALMOST.

 

[BRMC117]

Its true, I hate conflict. It is going to happen, and sometimes its necessary. I got chewed out for setting up a hydrant wrong. and then about 3 months later I had to do the same thing to someone else who set it wrong. I hated to do it but you can just walk up and be like. "umm excuse me if you could please wrap the hose the other way?". NFs, I think, see the world and know how they "should" be and interact, but most cant. and then we beat our selfs up on the inside...maybe...but what do I know

 

[Moiety]

I have no problem with conflict.



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[ReflecTcelfeR]

If you know that conflict is inevitable why do you avoid it so passionatly (this is to anyone who hates conflict)? You don't have to seek it, but to hold disdain for a natural process seems senseless.

 

[JediZenMasterFlash]

its not really a choice, its reflexive

you know what really gets under my skin?
Petty conflicts, like conflicts over drinking all the milk and similar situations

 

[Pixelholic]

I have no problem with conflict.



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This.

you know what really gets under my skin?
Petty conflicts, like conflicts over drinking all the milk and similar situations

Also this.

 

[Hate]

I have no problem with conflict.



Pansies...

Thank you Sytpg... I can relate