Ok so briochick posted this a bit ago:
and i read it and realized that i'm almost polar opposite. so this might not have anything to do with being an ENFP... or maybe it does! but i'm one of the most touchy people you will ever meet! i'm so physically affectionate to everyone (mainly friends and acquaintances) that one of my best girl friends said "if anyone would be able to turn me into a lesbian, it would be you!" haha!I want to know if many of the other INFP/Js are like this too. I don't like being touched by people I don't know. I can stand it but I am quite uncomfortable with it. Even those who I would consider pretty close friends I'm not hugely physically affectionate with. It's not that I'm not capable of it. Those people who have gotten into my heart (ie. my family, boyfriends-after-a-time, a select few girl friends) I am very physically affectionate with. I snuggle, hug, hand hold, sit upon, launch myself at. But, until that mysterious and very difficult to reach line has been crossed to someone I can "truly trust" I am not very physical. Even a hug is pretty awkward. This can also make things with guys kind of strained as even a guy touching my hand can end up a big deal, just because my body is my own and I hardly let anyone touch me. Is this normal for any of the rest of you?
not only i am super comfortable with being very touchy... but i'm also very um, raunchy, in the way i speak. there's virtually no line i won't cross when i'm talking/thinking. (of course i tone things down in inappropriate places, i.e. work/school) but get me with my friends and everyone's surprised at how "perverted" and "out there" i can get! not just in the sexual realm but in all areas of taboo. but the weird thing is i would never actually do the things i talk about. it's like my mind can visualize/fantasize/verbalize/explore thousands of mega-taboos, but my body has definite lines it won't cross. with most of my friends, it seems like their mental and physical "lines" mesh up.... but not for me. i'm concerned with consequences and morals and ethics as seen by society, so i control myself in real life. but in my head i've explored more taboos than most people even know exist. if i hadn't have learned that some things were "wrong" by worldly/spiritual/moral standards i'd think they're completely acceptable in my mind. when i haven't learned all the details of the wrongs and rights to something, i'm so open minded that i accept almost anything and see a logical argument as to why one would think it's okay.
hmm... i think i'm rambling and having trouble verbalizing the rest of my thoughts on this. i hope you understand what i'm trying to say, but if you don't, just ask me and i will clarify!!