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    I found that when I actually started to slow down and talk at a normal pace (I still probably talk faster than the average person) it was much easier to string together intricate and interesting sentences. Just by giving yourself those milli-second breaks between words allows your verbal thought to be so much more concise and appealing.

    I don't know if this specifically what your problem is but I think practicing reading out loud will help you nonetheless.

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    I often speak way too fast and get caught up in my own words.

    Especially when I talk to strangers. It's like my Ti wants to get it done with soon, my Ne is going apeshit and my mouth is playing catch up.

    But when I talk to people I know well, I have no trouble making conversation.
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    90% of what I speak is mushmouth, and 10% of what I write is illiteracy.

    I find that in writing I can spend my time to get it right, and can be very eloquent, but in speech I'm cludgey.

    And like Fluffy, for me it is Ni wanting to be done so it can imaginate, and Fe wants frrrriiiieeeends!

    Ni: I want flowers in my head, but youre in the way of my imagination... go away.
    Fe: FRIEND!!! Tell me your problems!!! I can help!!!

    Of Ni subverts Fe like an INTJ mafia boss subverts his minions into doing the dirty work.

    Ni: Get him to go away please, I dont like him.
    Fe: Me either! [Insert bitchy retorts to the aggressors statements here]
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    For me, it is that the words don't come at all. I speak slowly and draw complete blanks many times so I just say very little. People think (and at times have felt free to say!) lights on, nobody home, but it is simply not true. Words fly to my hands and fly away from my lips!

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    Quote Originally Posted by heart View Post
    For me, it is that the words don't come at all. I speak slowly and draw complete blanks many times so I just say very little. People think (and at times have felt free to say!) lights on, nobody home, but it is simply not true. Words fly to my hands and fly away from my lips!
    Totally true! I always feel like such a dag when I cant say a simple idea coherently. I find when I talk with my INTP friend we can brainstorm easily and communicate effectively. Especially since we've been friends for so long that we can say some thing like 'Can you do that to the thing so this will happen?' and the other understands what the talker meant perfectly. I always wonder how other people hearing the conversation will react (Especially Ss)
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    Hm. I think I sound smarter when I type than when I speak. Mostly because the words just come out when talking and then I realize they're totally nonrelated to the subject at hand and I'm experiencing a blonde moment despite my lack of blondeness.

    But writing is different. You get to think it out more. I am better at that, yes, but speaking is just a different monster altogether. Its purpose is different, y'know? And we INFPs have a wonderful gift for screwing up conversations in an endearing way. We make it work.
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    Quote Originally Posted by heart View Post
    For me, it is that the words don't come at all. I speak slowly and draw complete blanks many times so I just say very little. People think (and at times have felt free to say!) lights on, nobody home, but it is simply not true. Words fly to my hands and fly away from my lips!
    ME TOO! I have these tremendous pauses where my brain just shorts out for a second, and everybody around me is straining for me to "spit it out." It drives my family nuts, since they're all fast paced speakers.

    Whimsical ... I don't know if this idea is helpful for your situation, but I find that keeping a blog is really fun and helpful for me. Some people I know feel that this "blog" idea is a sorry substitute for "real" interaction, but I find that it's a really therapeutic way for me to get my thoughts out, and it's not a sorry substitute at all. When my "real life" friends and family are able to read some of my thoughts, they discover a whole new side of me that they don't always get through my speech. It can be a fun way for people to relate with you in the arena where you excel.
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    Quote Originally Posted by heart View Post
    For me, it is that the words don't come at all. I speak slowly and draw complete blanks many times so I just say very little. People think (and at times have felt free to say!) lights on, nobody home, but it is simply not true. Words fly to my hands and fly away from my lips!
    With me its true, lights are on, but there is noooboody home
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    Quote Originally Posted by heart View Post
    You are INFP. :pats on back: It's okay.

    But seriously I am the same way and yes, it is frustrating.
    Me too. I think it's an INxx thing in general.

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    imo, there is less time to think in a conversation.. not only that, but there is so much to observe while conversing... facial expression (although, because of that i tend to not look at faces- i assume that's why, anyway).. other external stimuli... it's more of a time to collect information than it is to formulate ideas. ideas tend to become clear once i've distanced myself from people and noise.. the silence almost has to be filled with thoughts and inevitably- new conclusions.
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