I think as ENFJs we don't explicitly want to change who a person is but more along the lines of enhancing the ability we already see inside of them. To some people this can be seen as one and the same but there is a subtle difference in my eyes.
Seeing the transformation of a person as they grow from a better understanding of whatever interests they may have is a very rewarding experience. When a person doesn't want to attain a greater sense of themselves or a certain idea I would feel almost as if they were pushing me away. Rejecting the idea of improving themselves for the complacency of keeping the status quo or whatever reasons they may have.
I crave the intimacy of knowing that we are both searching for something more and won't be satisfied with complacency.