ESTPs are a force of nature. Malia's right about the "toughen up" mentality because there's no greater juggernaut than an ESTP. I've dated one, and known many. I wouldn't say "don't do it" because that would be wrong. Also, every person is different. I've known chill ESTPs who have lots of sensitivity, and others who were steam rollers.
Se primaries are powers to be reckoned with!