[NF] NFs how neurotic are you ?

[Virtual ghost]

I am interested what happens in a head of NFs when stakes are high and sitation is serious. How often you have a problem with this kinds of sitations?
I know that NFs are very wide group so I will just ask a few general questions. People are free to answer only those with which they relate to.


How often your fears and insecurities get to you?

How often you are afraid that no one will like you (for no reason) ?

Is it because you need to be loved to be "complete" ? (more then others)

Do you have problems with nightmares?

Are you ever afraid that you will lose your ability to feel?

Do you tend to eat/drink too much when you are unhappy?

How much depression of another person efects you if you are close?

Are you often afraid that you will buy a wrong product and poison people which you love ?

 

[whimsical]

often

often

often

no

yes

sometimes I eat just because I am unhappy but it's not a habit

if we are very close I can feel it very strongly

hell no what kind of a weird questin is that

 

[OrangeAppled]

How often do your fears and insecurities get to you?
A lot....everyday. I struggle with being painfully shy and not having much self-worth.
It's getting better with age though.

How often you are afraid that no one will like you (for no reason) ?
All the time. I always think people dislike me, by default.
I'm almost suspicious of people if they like me right away.

Is it because you need to be loved to be "complete" ? (more then others)
I don't know why it is. I think it's just insecurity.
Of course I need to be loved; everybody does.

Do you have problems with nightmares?
Very, very rarely. I actually almost never remember my dreams, but when I do they are very vivid.
I had a nightmare last night about a cannibal. It was terrible & disturbing, but I didn't wake up. If I wake up then I usually can't go back to sleep. I will stay up all night until dawn, then I can go to sleep.
When I was a child I'd go to my mom's room and wake her up & she'd have to sit with me. This happened maybe once a year.

Are you ever afraid that you will lose your ability to feel?
No. I'm only afraid I will not be able to express how I feel.

Do you tend to eat/drink too much when you are unhappy?
I stress eat....meaning I eat too little because I forget, then when I do eat I just eat junk food.
I never get drunk, but I'll drink a glass of wine or two when I'm stressed/depressed to unwind or escape a bit.

How much depression of another person effects you if you are close?
Not that much, honestly. It frustrates me, but I'm good at putting it aside so I don't get too upset.


Are you often afraid that you will buy a wrong product and poison people which you love ?
No.

 

[sade]

How often do your fears and insecurities get to you? Sometimes. Under stress mostly.
How often you are afraid that no one will like you (for no reason) ? Rarely.
Is it because you need to be loved to be "complete" ? (more then others) No.
Do you have problems with nightmares? Unrelated, but yes when I was a child.
Are you ever afraid that you will lose your ability to feel? No. It doesn't seem possible.
Do you tend to eat/drink too much when you are unhappy? No.
How much depression of another person effects you if you are close? Too much.
Are you often afraid that you will buy a wrong product and poison people which you love ? What the...? NO.

 

[Serendipity]

How often your fears and insecurities get to you?

Not as much nowadays but say 90-500 times a month? (It doesn't have to be for a long time . . .)

How often you are afraid that no one will like you (for no reason) ?

For no reason? olO
A bit everyday.

Is it because you need to be loved to be "complete" ? (more then others)

Well, um. I'll put it this way. Before I understood that I was loved; I was a sad little android in my head.

Do you have problems with nightmares?

Nope. Almost never. **.
And ***.

Are you ever afraid that you will lose your ability to feel?

Yes.

Do you tend to eat/drink too much when you are unhappy?

Hrrm, I guess. . .

How much depression of another person effects you if you are close?

It can bring my whole world down and others worlds.

Are you often afraid that you will buy a wrong product and poison people which you love ?

A wrong product? Poison? What?


** I do have a bit too vivid imagination sometime and can by accident fuel a fear of the "exceptionally unnatural". When this occurs I get panicked and I start seeing things like "the exorcist girl" behind every door in the dark or "the ring gal" coming up my bed and touches me. Ah, just thinking about it gives me the creeps. Also, my friends call me paranoid. So I am probably an unhealthy enfp atm.

I don't know why I am so scared by young, small girls that wants to devour my mind but hey, I am. :/

*** I once had a dream where a man said that he would trade experiences for my dreams.
That has clearly fucked me up badly.

 

[Kyrielle]

How often your fears and insecurities get to you?

You mean bother me and cause boughts of horrendous indecision? It depends on the subject matter. When it comes to relationships and social things, all the freaking time. When it comes to everything else, only occasionally.

How often you are afraid that no one will like you (for no reason) ?

Just about anytime I meet someone new or am introduced to a group of people.

Is it because you need to be loved to be "complete" ? (more then others)

If by "complete" you mean accepted, then yes. But I don't have to be loved by anyone. Just liked is good enough. It means I have enough leeway to be myself instead of immediately trying to please this other person into liking me.

Do you have problems with nightmares?

Not at all.

Are you ever afraid that you will lose your ability to feel?

I don't know. I can't say that's ever been a prominent fear.

Do you tend to eat/drink too much when you are unhappy?

Sometimes. I'm a "chewer". Meaning, I don't get hungry, but when upset, I tend to want to chew on things and clench my teeth. Gets me in trouble when, say, there's a giant bag of Twizzlers or something else that's chewy nearby. But when actually unhappy, I'm a catatonic-esque kind of person. Meaning, I go lay down and I don't want to get up afterwards. Depression = lots of sleeping and staring at walls for me.

How much depression of another person efects you if you are close?

Enough to make me feel depressed or "off", too. Especially if I suddenly sense the walls going up and I'm being pushed away with how they're responding to me.

Are you often afraid that you will buy a wrong product and poison people which you love ?

Uh, never?

 

[garbage]

Huh, it appears that most of my answers are likely more Enneagram 6-flavored than NF-flavored. I hope this helps!


How often your fears and insecurities get to you?
The answer used to be "constantly." My biggest fears used to be centered around other people; fear of rejection, fear that they didn't like me, and, most acutely, fear that they could read me. I'd get panic attacks when around crowds. I had few friends. I hated people.

I also just used to doubt myself, constantly. I used to fear for the worst and I had no self-confidence.

None of this is true anymore.

I haven't grown out of my anxiety; rather, I've turned it upside down. I don't overanalyze out of fear; my constant torrent of thoughts and heightened awareness just serves me. I can make accurate predictions about my environment and other people based upon very subtle cues. I've got a "background process" that solves problems I haven't even come across yet, and I'm instantly prepared for when those problems or even unrelated ones arise. I know the worst-case scenario, but now I also know whether or not it's plausible.

Don't get me wrong--very small fears surface from time to time, but I'm usually much more able to deal with them.


How often you are afraid that no one will like you (for no reason) ?
Mostly addressed above, but, yeah, this used to be a big fear of mine.


Is it because you need to be loved to be "complete" ? (more then others)
Nope, my motivation was different. I'm steadfastly independent.


Do you have problems with nightmares?
Nope


Are you ever afraid that you will lose your ability to feel?
I've been there once, when I was on Paxil as a minor. I'm in touch with how I feel, and I know that my emotions are not just going to disappear.


Do you tend to eat/drink too much when you are unhappy?
Nope.. I either sulk, consult other people, or face the problem head-on. More often than not, I face the problem.


How much depression of another person efects you if you are close?
Very much so. I take their problems on myself and do everything I can to support them. I often feel their depressive state.

Of course, I do this to a degree with many problems that other people face, but my tendency to do so with depression is probably more pronounced because it hits close to home.


Are you often afraid that you will buy a wrong product and poison people which you love ?
No

 

[aguanile]

How often your fears and insecurities get to you?
Every day, all day. I am in a constant struggle to fight my way out of my insecurity and fear. That's why I ahve to keep it at least looking cool, calm and collected on the outside.

How often you are afraid that no one will like you (for no reason) ?
As someone else said, my default thought is that strangers won't like me or will have something against me.

Is it because you need to be loved to be "complete" ? (more then others)
I think, maybe yes, I need to feel loved/accepted more than others. I don't think that it makes me "complete," but I definitely need it.

Do you have problems with nightmares?
Yes.

Are you ever afraid that you will lose your ability to feel?
Can't say I ever thought about it. But it would be a sad day if I walked around numb all the time. I feel alive when I experience strong emotions.
Do you tend to eat/drink too much when you are unhappy?

Do you tend to eat/drink too much when you are unhappy?

Yes, for sure.

How much depression of another person efects you if you are close?
Not a lot. I have stepped back from allowing myself to get so close to people that their emotions effect in great amounts.

Are you often afraid that you will buy a wrong product and poison people which you love ?
No.

 

[Shinzon]

How often your fears and insecurities get to you?

Probably once a month for the majority of my life I'll get a few days where my perspective of all the things I'm worried about will slip towards the hopeless end of the specturm and I'll get into a general funk.

How often you are afraid that no one will like you (for no reason) ?

Often, but in the moment I'll feel like a have a good (though misguided) reason for doing so.

Is it because you need to be loved to be "complete" ? (more then others)

I don't think I need it to be complete, but when I have it I get paranoid about losing it.

Do you have problems with nightmares?

Only when I'm ignoring a problem and doing the best to repress the emotions associated. Even then, they aren't classical 'nightmares', but more like distorted scenarios that reflect what I'm repressing and leave me feeling agitated when I wake up.

Are you ever afraid that you will lose your ability to feel?

Only in times of great stress. I become so overwhelmed with emotion that I blow a fuse. If the state persists, I begin to worry that I've forever lost touch with an integral part of myself.

Do you tend to eat/drink too much when you are unhappy?

Most of the time I'm more likely to deny myself when I'm unhappy. I will overindulge when bored.

How much depression of another person defects you if you are close?

More than I'd like.

Are you often afraid that you will buy a wrong product and poison people which you love ?

Not really, but someone close to be died when I was young and it introduced the concept of mortality at a too early age. When I was younger I would worry that I may have accidentally ingested poison or other such paranoid nonsense. I grew out of that when I entered my teens, however.

 

[sculpting]

How often your fears and insecurities get to you?

when younger this was very prevelant. As I have gotten older I have become much better at dealiing with my insecurities. I didnt talk to people much till I was 17.

How often you are afraid that no one will like you (for no reason) ?
It depends upon if I care if they like me. If I dont care then I approach them with Ne-Te and it does not matter. If I do care I approach with Ne-Fi and it is very painful if they do not like me.

Is it because you need to be loved to be "complete" ? (more then others)

I dont need another person to feel complete. Okaya actually that's a total lie. I need to feel needed, to give Ne-Fi sustinance. It needs to be used for me to be happy. So I build spiderwebs of individuals who I deeply care for in order to feed the Ne-Fi.

Do you have problems with nightmares?

Repetitive ones-after a grassfire I set, I had firedreams for years. After a tornado I was in, I had tornado dreams. After 911, I had dreams where planes would fall out of the sky. I had the naked dreams a lot as a kid. Now in all of those dreams if that element pops up I can control the item that is worriesome-I put the fires out, route the tornados around my house, make the planes fall elsewhere. The last time I had the naked dreams I actually made a choice to stop in the dream and eat some yummy cantelope and to hell with all the people watching me eat cantelope naked. Then I had clothes again

Are you ever afraid that you will lose your ability to feel?

I go through many times where I cant tap into this as I use Te too much

Do you tend to eat/drink too much when you are unhappy?

Maybe drink some, but familia obligations prevent excess.

How much depression of another person efects you if you are close?

I close this off as I cant take it if I cant help them.

Are you often afraid that you will buy a wrong product and poison people which you love ?

This is an ISFJ thing. I have seen my ISFJ ponder these sorts of things before

 

[Lady_X]

How often your fears and insecurities get to you?

i have had trouble with stress related anxiety a few times in my life but it's not really a problem...i just tend to over think things so if there's a big change or stressful situation i can work myself up to the point of an anxiety attack.

How often you are afraid that no one will like you (for no reason) ?

actually never...i don't know why...but i never worry about that.

Is it because you need to be loved to be "complete" ? (more then others)

i've never not felt that so i can't really say but...yeah i imagine i need that.

Do you have problems with nightmares?

i have but very rarely.

Are you ever afraid that you will lose your ability to feel?

no.

Do you tend to eat/drink too much when you are unhappy?

no

How much depression of another person efects you if you are close?

never experienced it so much.

Are you often afraid that you will buy a wrong product and poison people which you love ?

i'm worried about accidentally mixing chemicals when i clean...yeah.

 

[ladypinkington]

How often your fears and insecurities get to you?
Everyday-it is a constant whack a mole game. My insecurites come up and I have to beat them down and I never know when they are going to pop up next.

How often you are afraid that no one will like you (for no reason) ?
Every day- I just assume everyone is plotting against me,lol. Everytime I do or say anything I wonder if I have blown it or not.

Is it because you need to be loved to be "complete" ? (more then others)
I guess so- I just want to know that I have a right to be me and that there is place for me- there is a demand for my product that is my company.

Do you have problems with nightmares?
I have recurring dreams that haunt me but don't give me real problems. Just indicators that there are things bothering me and that doesn't bother me. I like to be honest with myself and nightmares or bad dreams tcan help you be more honest with yourself albeit in incrypted form.

Are you ever afraid that you will lose your ability to feel?
yes- by being too empathetic it wears me down and makes me desire to be apathetic just because it feels like to much of a burden and load to deal with-I am naturally all or nothing. The extreme feelingness burns me out a lot. I want to lose my ability to feel a lot of times.

Do you tend to eat/drink too much when you are unhappy?
if you need me, I'll be in the refridgerator,lol. Yes- if I am in the abyss of despair- I have my knights in shining oreos beside me. If I am truely truely unhappy- I will not eat at all- because what is the point of living and eating only perpetuates life- now I haven't been anywhere near that in over a decade but in my teens I went through protests of life extenders,lol.

How much depression of another person effects you if you are close?
Oh completely- although not when I am with them- I am everything they need me to be when with them- but after they are done I feel like everything has stuck to me and now I have to get rid of it on my own now too. Like passing a cold.

Are you often afraid that you will buy a wrong product and poison people which you love ?

Oh my gosh how did you know! With all these recalls these days I am so paranoid- will this be the thing that will kill my family? I feel I need to keep up to date so much on recalls and healthiness of products and feel personally responsible if I fail and feed the precious people in my life something bad and lose them and then go into the abyss of despair completely- never eat and die.

 

[Phantonym]

How often your fears and insecurities get to you?
Once in a while. I can have these long periods of time (sometimes for months) when I'm perfectly happy with myself and the world around me. But then come these periods (that can last for months) when everything is just...dark. Then just anything ticks me off and I close off everything and everybody.

How often you are afraid that no one will like you (for no reason)?
All the time. There are times when I can sort of subdue this feeling but there's always this "thing" at the back of my mind. Paranoia

Is it because you need to be loved to be "complete"? (more then others)
Yes, definitely. Maybe not loved, but to be accepted just the way I am. Feels nice when people "get" you, but often they do not.

Do you have problems with nightmares?
No. I think I've only had a few in all my life.

Are you ever afraid that you will lose your ability to feel?
No, not really. There are times when I analyze things to exhaustion and I can enter this space in my mind where I hardly feel anything but numbness. So, being unable to feel doesn't scare me. I would prefer to keep my ability to feel, though.

Do you tend to eat/drink too much when you are unhappy?
YES! I'm an emotional eater and I eat whenever I'm happy, sad, excited, bored, you name it. I also tend to binge-eat. It's been a battle for all my life

How much depression of another person efects you if you are close?
Very much. Not being able to help the people close to me gets me down every time.

Are you often afraid that you will buy a wrong product and poison people which you love?
No, not poison. But I am afraid that something bad could happen to the people I love. I worry about them all the time.

 

[Lacey]

How often your fears and insecurities get to you?

All the time.​

How often you are afraid that no one will like you (for no reason) ?

A lot. A lot. A lot.​

Is it because you need to be loved to be "complete" ? (more then others)

I don't know.​

Do you have problems with nightmares?

The only time I had problems with nightmares was when I was on antidepressants. One of the many reasons I quit them. I usually don't dream (or remember them, or whatever) at all.​

Are you ever afraid that you will lose your ability to feel?

No. I lost it once, and it wasn't that bad.​

Do you tend to eat/drink too much when you are unhappy?

I don't have a problem with drinking. I eat too much all the time, no matter how I feel. ​

How much depression of another person efects you if you are close?

The actual depression doesn't bother me, it's the actions they take. My sister is depressed, and not dealing with it, so she gets drunk all the time, cuts herself, and does all kinds of drugs. I cry about it a lot, because I can't really do anything else.​

Are you often afraid that you will buy a wrong product and poison people which you love ?

LOL

No.

But I do sometimes over-worry about how my decisions will affect me and other people. Not that I make bad, irresponsible decisions, but there are some things you just aren't aware of, you know? The butterfly effeeeeect. Drives me crazy.​

 

[IEE623]

How often your fears and insecurities get to you?
Insecurities? Almost never...
Fears? I think fear is an inevitable part of being human. Yet it rarely gets to me. When it does, it takes me a short period of time to push it out of my mind.

How often you are afraid that no one will like you (for no reason) ?
this is not a question for me lol Never.... people like me or not is their business, especially "for no reason"... sounds pretty absurd.

Is it because you need to be loved to be "complete" ? (more then others)
Nope. I don't have a defective Fi

Do you have problems with nightmares?
My dreams are mostly pleasant or adventurous.

Are you ever afraid that you will lose your ability to feel?
Yes. From time to time I do fear I will lose my feelings. There's no point in being human without feelings.

Do you tend to eat/drink too much when you are unhappy?
It happens the other way around for me. I tend to starve myself when I am unhappy. I don't feel like doing anything.

How much depression of another person efects you if you are close?
It depends on the level of depression of the other person. Mostly it does effect me in a negative way though.

Are you often afraid that you will buy a wrong product and poison people which you love ?
Hahaha this is a really funny question.

 

[iwakar]

Do you have problems with nightmares?

Under stress, suppressed fears? YES. But I have trippy dreams in general. Almost nightly.

 

[Sponge]

Whoooooo I love surveys!

How often your fears and insecurities get to you?

Once a month. Oh wait, that's my period.

How often you are afraid that no one will like you (for no reason) ?

Once a month. Haha, seriously, if I feel kinda down, I'm more likely to think people don't like me, but when I'm in a happy normal mood, stuff like that doesn't bother me.

Is it because you need to be loved to be "complete" ? (more then others)

No, other people do not complete me. Although I'm obsessed with completing myself through whatever fuzzy self-development method I'm into at the time.

Do you have problems with nightmares?

Nope, I've never ever had a nightmare. Some of the dreams I have that others would call nightmares are really exciting dreams to me, I love them!

Are you ever afraid that you will lose your ability to feel?

No. I worry about my ability to think rationally though. Although I do worry that I will forget who I am sometimes.

Do you tend to eat/drink too much when you are unhappy?

Yes. I am a chronic comfort eater. It's the reason why I'm responsible for global warming!

How much depression of another person efects you if you are close?

I get effected by peoples moods pretty easily, actually. But isn't that true of all types? If you're surrounded by a bunch of miserable people, you're gonna feel really miserable yourself.

Are you often afraid that you will buy a wrong product and poison people which you love ?

What made you add this question in? It's very random

 

[runvardh]

How often your fears and insecurities get to you?
- more often than I like, but not enough to cripple my everyday life

How often you are afraid that no one will like you (for no reason) ?
- not as much as I used to

Is it because you need to be loved to be "complete" ? (more then others)
- perhaps loved by someone, but the world at large can kiss my furry butt

Do you have problems with nightmares?
- not since I was 16

Are you ever afraid that you will lose your ability to feel?
- it's in the back of my mind almost all the time

Do you tend to eat/drink too much when you are unhappy?
- yes, eat

How much depression of another person efects you if you are close?
- enough that I have to walk away and unload soon after

Are you often afraid that you will buy a wrong product and poison people which you love ?
- no

 

[Virtual ghost]

Are you often afraid that you will buy a wrong product and poison people which you love ?

Oh my gosh how did you know! With all these recalls these days I am so paranoid- will this be the thing that will kill my family? I feel I need to keep up to date so much on recalls and healthiness of products and feel personally responsible if I fail and feed the precious people in my life something bad and lose them and then go into the abyss of despair completely- never eat and die.

This is why I have placed this weird question in the OP. Since I have noticed that some FJs have the tendency to think/feel this way when they are stressed.


Btw I am one of those that plot against you.

 

[the state i am in]

How often your fears and insecurities get to you?
most of the time i interact with women. or encounter other acquaintances who are far more businesslike, adultlike, aggressively moving forward, etc. groups get me too at times. one-on-one i'm pretty solid, charming, witty, etc. but groups can make me clench up. also worrying about the future a lot, being un-okay with Not-Knowing, blah blah. i like how perceivers waste less time doing something productive, developing viable options, whereas i waste too much time making vague decisions that don't yet really even exist.

How often you are afraid that no one will like you (for no reason) ?
i blame the enneagram 5 ego fixation. when things disintegrate i feel that the entire world is empty, grey, cold, etc. not so much type 4 alienation as type 5 isolation. isolation + winter relentlessness (the first snow is always quite beautiful). it doesn't happen that often but i dont' deal with mood/stress all that well at times, it takes a bit too long for me to recognize where i have ARRIVED.

Is it because you need to be loved to be "complete" ? (more then others)
probably. kinda leachlike in that regard. i blame the 4 wing and the enneagram 5 type as much as infj. they make me selfish and withdrawn which sucks when infj is made to make others happy, connect with others, etc. need to not hold back, take risk, yada yada

Do you have problems with nightmares?
no, never. two ever
1) teeth falling out
2) the super shredder chasing me when i was riding in the turtle van

Are you ever afraid that you will lose your ability to feel?
yes. it feels as if i would then be without motivation, purpose, color, meaning. i feel a tremendous pressure to document my youth before it dissolves and i am left with quiet, steady, eternal equilibrium.

Do you tend to eat/drink too much when you are unhappy?
yup. wayyy too much. inferior Se. makes me a huge glutton. good thing i played soccer as a kid and have leftover metabolic fire or i'd be a huge fatass. also, i drink regularly period, generally don't get sloppy drunk, but i've had 4-5 occasions in my life where i drank to pass out when i was feeling an inescapably terrible feeling. the booze doesn't really help, at that point, but the passing out does.

How much depression of another person efects you if you are close?
pretty strongly, Fe needs clean air to breathe!

Are you often afraid that you will buy a wrong product and poison people which you love ?
are you serious? proctor and gamble is one of my major pet peeves, but i don't think that counts.