janey_girl
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- Feb 18, 2009
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Hi there.... Just wondering if it's an INFJ thing or just me? I feel really in need of space. Not all of the time, just as long as I know I'm going to get some space I am fine but when I don't I get really cranky, anxious and no fun to be around....
Right now, my land lady is being a real "space invader" - when I first moved in six months ago all was good - she had a boyfriend who rarely came to the house and I used to get 2 - 3 evenings a week on my own and even if she was there it was cool, we'd sit, chat and watch some TV.... For the past 10 - 12 weeks she has a new fella and he is over all the time. I don't like him and feel very uncomfortable in his presence (just the sound of his grating voice makes me feel physically sick) so I find myself either spending time at my boyfriend's which is fine mostly (he's an ISTP so needs his space as well and I try not to overstay my welcome) or spend my time in my tiny room avoiding my land lady and her fella. Last night even though I was starving I waited for ages before I could make my evening meal.
The house is too small really for both of us to have any real privacy - the lounge goes straight into the dining area, which goes straight into the kitchen so even when I was making my evening meal last night I tried to be as quiet and considerate as possible. The walls are very thin as well and I heard them having sex last night as well, which turned my stomach (I'm no prude but it was like hearing your mum and dad having sex - not the best).
Into this mix she has an eight year old son she sees every 3 weekends (it was one in 4 when I first moved in - which was fine) as well as all the holidays. I don't like children and try and stay out of the way - over Easter though it was hell, a careful balance of not imposing too much on my boyfriend against not imposing too much on my land lady "playing happy families" with her son and boyfriend...
When this first started I was having a hard job handling it and will be moving out in 10 days to a teeny weeny studio flat....
Any other INFJs find "space invaders" difficult to stomach? How do you handle things with them?
Right now, my land lady is being a real "space invader" - when I first moved in six months ago all was good - she had a boyfriend who rarely came to the house and I used to get 2 - 3 evenings a week on my own and even if she was there it was cool, we'd sit, chat and watch some TV.... For the past 10 - 12 weeks she has a new fella and he is over all the time. I don't like him and feel very uncomfortable in his presence (just the sound of his grating voice makes me feel physically sick) so I find myself either spending time at my boyfriend's which is fine mostly (he's an ISTP so needs his space as well and I try not to overstay my welcome) or spend my time in my tiny room avoiding my land lady and her fella. Last night even though I was starving I waited for ages before I could make my evening meal.
The house is too small really for both of us to have any real privacy - the lounge goes straight into the dining area, which goes straight into the kitchen so even when I was making my evening meal last night I tried to be as quiet and considerate as possible. The walls are very thin as well and I heard them having sex last night as well, which turned my stomach (I'm no prude but it was like hearing your mum and dad having sex - not the best).
Into this mix she has an eight year old son she sees every 3 weekends (it was one in 4 when I first moved in - which was fine) as well as all the holidays. I don't like children and try and stay out of the way - over Easter though it was hell, a careful balance of not imposing too much on my boyfriend against not imposing too much on my land lady "playing happy families" with her son and boyfriend...
When this first started I was having a hard job handling it and will be moving out in 10 days to a teeny weeny studio flat....
Any other INFJs find "space invaders" difficult to stomach? How do you handle things with them?