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[INFJ] what are INFJs thinking of ?

Hap

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Wanna know more about INFJs.

Why do they like delaying things very much ? (I mean,for example, start a relationship )
 

whimsical

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because they like to think about things before they make something happen
 

Hap

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Uh-oh. Why?

Smitten?


The INFJ and I started a relationship but just for several days,and then both

of us cooled down ,bc I think he was trying to delay something,and I don't

know what it was and felt very bad .
 

Hap

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because they like to think about things before they make something happen


Did that mean he began to regret starting the relationship with me and then got some space to escape from the wrong chioce he made before ?



Really weird....
 

whimsical

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I dont know your situation, you'd have to tell me what happened at least
 

Hap

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I dont know your situation, you'd have to tell me what happened at least


(Let me call him The INFJ)

The INFJ asked me to be his GF,but then ,he showed a very cool attitude to me ,which made me very confused ,bc I didn't think that i have done something wrong .

So , i am wondering that there must be something happened inside of him, and i was trying to figure it out , but still have no idea what it is .

does that "cool " mean anything ? I want to know .

see ?
 

Hap

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he's cool with you being his girlfriend?


Yup.

SO , I was wondering if he just used this way to escape from the relationship ,bc he actually didn't wanna this relationship .

I just guess,not very sure.
 

the state i am in

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(Let me call him The INFJ)

The INFJ asked me to be his GF,but then ,he showed a very cool attitude to me ,which made me very confused ,bc I didn't think that i have done something wrong .

So , i am wondering that there must be something happened inside of him, and i was trying to figure it out , but still have no idea what it is .

does that "cool " mean anything ? I want to know .

see ?

we are moody. if you try to thaw him out but can't and reach an impasse, talk to him about it. don't let infj concerns fester too much, it will be too exhausting for you at an early stage in the relationship when you don't realize that infjs EVENTUALLY work their shit out, tho it takes a lot of time, effort, energy, etc. when addressed directly, we are often smarter than when we just wander along and sift thru the details on our own. it helps us focus and realize the position of the other person. which, when we take into account, will make us do the right thing. also, could we be more tentative in terms of making commitments, jesus h christ??? big decisions often get kept open even after they are made (worrying thing!), and sometimes they just tend to burn us out. sometimes takes a while for us to re-charge, especially if we are not confident in our ability to master the environment, extrovert, direct things around us and find something to give us what we need.
 
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