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    In my personal experience, I've witnessed an INFP totally bulldozed by an ESTP.
    Sure, it could work out. It would just take a special pair to be able to put up with each other's tendencies.

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    Default the only letters that matter are L-O-V-E

    That old concept and expression "opposites attract" has been batted around for centuries. And in fact, it's very true when it comes to love relationships. Through our research, we have noted that people are usually attracted to their opposite on the Extraversion/Introversion and Judging/Perceiving scales. We are naturally attracted to individuals who are different from ourselves - and therefore somewhat exciting. But it's not just the exciting differences which attract us to our opposites, it is also a natural quest for completion. We naturally are drawn towards individuals who have strengths which we are missing. When two opposites function as a couple, they become a more well-rounded, functioning unit. There is also the theory that our natural attraction to our opposites is a subconscious way of forcing us to deal with the weaker aspects of our own nature. While we are highly attracted to our opposites, two opposites involved in an intimate relationship have significant issues and communication barriers to overcome. So in a sense, our attraction to the opposite personality can be seen as our subconscious minds driving us towards becoming a more complete individual, by causing us to face the areas in life which are most difficult to us.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wolf View Post
    ESTPs are stereotypical conmen and exploit everyone they come in contact with. My father is an ESTP, so I am intimately-familiar with how they work. I have no clue how my mother endures it, except that she's a total pushover.
    That old concept and expression "opposites attract" has been batted around for centuries. And in fact, it's very true when it comes to love relationships. Through our research, we have noted that people are usually attracted to their opposite on the Extraversion/Introversion and Judging/Perceiving scales. We are naturally attracted to individuals who are different from ourselves - and therefore somewhat exciting. But it's not just the exciting differences which attract us to our opposites, it is also a natural quest for completion. We naturally are drawn towards individuals who have strengths which we are missing. When two opposites function as a couple, they become a more well-rounded, functioning unit. There is also the theory that our natural attraction to our opposites is a subconscious way of forcing us to deal with the weaker aspects of our own nature. While we are highly attracted to our opposites, two opposites involved in an intimate relationship have significant issues and communication barriers to overcome. So in a sense, our attraction to the opposite personality can be seen as our subconscious minds driving us towards becoming a more complete individual, by causing us to face the areas in life which are most difficult to us.

    The same cannot be said for other kinds of relationships. When it comes to work colleagues, or friends, we are not especially interested in dealing with people who are very unlike ourselves. We are most comfortable with those who have similar interests and perspectives, and we do not show a lot of motivation or patience for dealing with our opposites.

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    I thought an ESTJ was the opposite of an INFP.

    Anyway, I would like to know what everyone's thoughts are about an INFP (me) and an INTP. I did hear from INTJMom say that her INFP sister dated unsuccessfully with an INTP man, and she ended up successfully marrying an ISTJ man.

    I dated an ISTJ for 9 years, and he wore me out mentally. I think we both wore each other out. We got along famously and were wildly attracted to each other, however there were just some issues that I couldn't overcome, and he couldn't figure out how to make things better. *sigh* Oh well...

    Are there any other insights?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sandy View Post
    I thought an ESTJ was the opposite of an INFP.
    I think what he meant by that is that ESTPs and INFPs both value and use least what the other values and uses most.

    Quote Originally Posted by Sandy View Post
    Anyway, I would like to know what everyone's thoughts are about an INFP (me) and an INTP. I did hear from INTJMom say that her INFP sister dated unsuccessfully with an INTP man, and she ended up successfully marrying an ISTJ man.
    I have several good INTP friends, and I find that I have far greater intellectual affinity with them than with any other non-INFP type. When it comes to talking about ideas, they are fantastic. They are also low-maintenance, amenable to spontaneity, and have their own thing going on (which is important for INFPs, who hate the responsibility of micro-managing other people's entertainment and general emotional health).

    I've never been in a relationship with one, so I don't know what that's like. From what I've seen of their relationships (yes, they do have them), they tend to make great mates once they get over their initial instabilities and their bewilderment in dealing with their emotions and those of another person. The only thing I can see going wrong with a mature INFP/INTP pairing would be that neither type are particularly good at initiating things. Neither type are especially bothered by this lack, however, so it's no big deal.

    Certainly it's a more constructive pairing imo than INFP/ISTJ, which seems to rely heavily on mutual misunderstanding and misconceived condescension.

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    theoretically no. but personality type is a construct.

    you can make it work but both of you will have to be bent on making it work
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    Socionics pegs it as the most compatible relationship for both sides. Of course, the possibility of one of the two (in most instances, the ESTP) being an asshole changes the real outcome of the pairing.

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    My brother's an ESTP we get along alright, but we live on other sides of the country and probably talk and see each other twice a year. growing up we did not get along.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JivinJeffJones View Post
    I think what he meant by that is that ESTPs and INFPs both value and use least what the other values and uses most.
    Thanks for clearing that up for me!

    Quote Originally Posted by JivinJeffJones View Post
    Certainly it's a more constructive pairing imo than INFP/ISTJ, which seems to rely heavily on mutual misunderstanding and misconceived condescension.
    Tell me about it. (been there/done that) :steam:
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    Quote Originally Posted by NocturnalSun View Post
    An ESTP is the true opposite of the INFP

    Se Ti Fe Ni | Te Si Ne Fi -- ESTP
    Fi Ne Si Te | Ni Fe Ti Se -- INFP

    It seems like there would be necessary issues.
    Actually, I think the true opposite of the INFPs are ENFJs. I have never seen them get along.

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