Also, unless she's psychic I'm pretty sure she's not controlling my thoughts or feelings, though I find it interesting and unsettling that I've worded things in such a way that you feel that she is or that I think she is. Once you are an adult no one controls our thoughts or feelings, you react to others and they may work to bring out those reactions in you or work to draw your thoughts toward something but there is no control over something which the other cannot touch.
Anything without emotion is nearly impossible for me. Note my personality type. I can pretend to be unemotional, or less emotional, for a short period of time but it is difficult. I do care whether or not people like me. I don't know if it's personal preference or personality. I think it goes into the fact that I think all people, and all people's opinions, matter. And, since each person matters I would like them to like me and I'm unhappy when they don't. I will then want to know why and want to know if I can fix it and if I can't what damage control I can do.