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    Default ENFP Pet Peeves

    1. Having someone willingly give to me (whether time, attention, favors, errands, cooking, or WHATEVER), and then accuse me of using them when I don't respond in kind. Hello!? I never asked for any of that in the first place! If I want to do something nice for you, I will. But don't try and manipulate me into it by giving giving giving to me and expecting me to do the same just because you did so for me.

    2. Being accused of being an atrocious flirt with no boundaries.

    3. Being told "you're too intense."

    4. Being told "that's a crazy idea."

    5. Being told "you're too sensitive."

    Ha ha?! Any others?

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    ^ The first one is easily argued.. if someone is giving that much to me, I try to stop them right then and there so that the stated situation never occurs. I don't take everything offered to me. Doing so would be abusing a system where.. yes.. eventually nice people want nice things back. More importantly, you're not being much of a friend if you let people that act like door mats continue that behavior with you. You'd be better off helping them by rejecting their attempts.

    Anyways, having people 'fall in love' with you when they hardly know you.

    People that think I'm soo awesome, then get bored with me because I turn out to be a pretty standard, normal human being.

    People that take advantage of my intense friendships.

    People that mistake my kindness for weakness.

    People that "test my boundaries." .. Let me assure you, if you're my friend, there aren't any particular boundaries. THere just comes a point where the levee's break and after that you're done.

    When people genuinely don't give a shit if they hurt me even though they're my friend.
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    Quote Originally Posted by kyuuei View Post
    I f someone is giving that much to me, I try to stop them right then and there so that the stated situation never occurs.
    So true. For some reason ENFPs seem to have an unspoken magnetism or charisma that kind of puts "a spell" on people and makes them want to do nice things. In these cases - I do ask them to stop - BUT THEY KEEP DOING IT!

    Quote Originally Posted by kyuuei View Post
    having people 'fall in love' with you when they hardly know you.
    Again, BINGO!!!! Soooo true! So what the heck are they really falling in love with - an illusion?

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    People that are ALWAYS blunt and cut-throat with me.. but lord forbid I EVER say anything in a more cross tone than my usual polite nature.
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    people that insist on forcing me to do things their way, and when I refuse, whine about what a lousy friend I am, or what a stupid idiot I am for not listening to them.

    people who consider you inferior based on the fact that you don't want and therefore don't pursue/have the same lifestyle they do.
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    Quote Originally Posted by kyuuei View Post
    having people 'fall in love' with you when they hardly know you.
    me too, dude. it's a curse. and it's never the ones you'd actually date...

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    Quote Originally Posted by marmandahalf View Post
    and it's never the ones you'd actually date...
    That is SOOOOO the clincher!!!! It's never the one I WANT to have pursue me!! @#$%@#!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by seeker22 View Post
    That is SOOOOO the clincher!!!! It's never the one I WANT to have pursue me!! @#$%@#!!!
    Our lives suck, huh?

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    I agree with all the ones posted.

    When people expect you to carry a whole conversation. Ugh...people do this to me all the time. They will call & stay quiet & push me into talking...I am not the one who called so initiate the conversation! This happens in person too.

    Being called too serious/deep.

    People misinterpreting my kindness/openness for something more (romantic).

    Being told that I am too introverted/shy.
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    Quote Originally Posted by soleil View Post
    I agree with all the ones posted.

    When people expect you to carry a whole conversation. Ugh...people do this to me all the time. They will call & stay quiet & push me into talking...I am not the one who called so initiate the conversation! This happens in person too.
    I totally agree.

    I'm capable of carrying a room full of conversations, doing 90% of the work. The problem comes whenever I don't feel like operating as the center of attention and root of all laughter. When I want to sit back and chill, people bother me with the "whats wrong"s and the "entertain me, Evan" bullshit that makes me want to stuff their faces through a cheese grater.

    Among my closer circle of friends however, I NEVER have this problem.

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