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    Default ENFPs: Hopeless Flirts?

    As an ENFP, I am often times accused of being a hopeless flirt... In my mind, I'm simply playfully engaging others and giving them attention. My ex gf (SJ) and I would get in huge fights over this for the five years we were together. (And btw no I never cheated) She said I had no "emotional boundaries." What really sucks is when you think you are just being fun and nice, and the other person mistakes it for genuine romantic interest. Others?

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    I think the whole 'ENFPs are hopeless flirts' is a complete myth and I am sooo with you on the playful front... No one wanna have fun anymore without turning it into true feeling... I blame Oprah :steam:
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    Yeah, I think so. I find myself "flirting" or what others may percieve as flirting, with lots of people, even unintentionally. It's just our nature, I guess.
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    ^ all the time. It's even worse with the opposite sex, but the definitions of flirting just seem genuinely different between people.

    Recently a friend and I were debating whether it was appropriate if his girlfriend hangs out alone at all with another man, one of her best friends. He thinks not, the act is innappropriate now that she's a taken woman. I think that it's silly to change your ways based on a new and unfounded relationship. The perspectives are neither wrong nor right, just different.

    A lot of problems occur though for me, however, when guy friends think I'm flirting with them.. and I am genuinely just being nice. Often it goes over my head when men flirt with me as well, as I don't consider nice behavior and such along flirty.

    I'm a pretty blunt person in my own shy way. If I'm flirting with someone, I'm basically asking for sex.. or for a potential date. Anything less than that is nice behavior. Definitely there's joking flirting, fake flirting, pseudo flirting, half-flirting.. I'm running my mouth now lol.

    My point is.. no one I date had better be the jealous, untrusting type. They'll be in for a long harsh ride if they are.
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    Quote Originally Posted by kyuuei View Post
    My point is.. no one I date had better be the jealous, untrusting type. They'll be in for a long harsh ride if they are.
    BINGO!!!!!! Have some faith in your ENFPs people! You have to know they are going home with YOU and just be flattered by the attention they get from others. =) Take it as a compliment.

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    What's wrong with flirts?

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    ^ I'm not sure.

    Anyways.. There was a thread started a while back concerning ENFPs and being prone to cheating. I definitely agreed that we may be more prone than, say, SJ types, if you go purely based on type.

    My point entirely was that people in general are capable of cheating.. humans are necessarily born monogamous. We choose that lifestyle based on more than nature.. It's a person's characters and morals that keep them from cheating.

    Someone who is the jealous type ... it makes for a stressful lifestyle to end up trying to date someone that you knew beforehand to be flirtacious.
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    I really can't see how ENFPs are more prone to cheating that other types.. Even SJs... I just reckon they are more thorough in their cover up and so less likley to get caught
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    Yeah... my ex LOVED that I was a playful flirt when she first met me! That same quality she ended up HATING! Funny how that happens - even when you KNOW what you are getting into - the very thing that attracted you, repels you.

    Take for example the INTP I am pursuing at the moment... I am becoming involved knowing full well she is emotionally aloof. For right now, the "chase" is fun - but down the road - I can already tell this is going to spell trouble when my F rears its ugly head and collides with her T!

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