In any even, what the OP was asking about was more the jokey flirty type of behaviour:
Emotional boundaries have been an issue for the ENFPs I've known. I think having this pointed out might be helpful? I also strongly believe that we are frequently not the best judge of our own motivations. It's too easy to deceive ourselves so that our self-image and behaviour have some kind of congruence.As an ENFP, I am often times accused of being a hopeless flirt... In my mind, I'm simply playfully engaging others and giving them attention. My ex gf (SJ) and I would get in huge fights over this for the five years we were together. (And btw no I never cheated) She said I had no "emotional boundaries." What really sucks is when you think you are just being fun and nice, and the other person mistakes it for genuine romantic interest. Others?
To assume one can engage in hardcore flirting without any kind of consequence is rather naive at best.
What I don't understand is that the whole premise of the kind of flirting you are talking about is built on a lie, it's a promise without payment. Whereas true connection/bonding is built on authenticity, mutual disclosure and trust. I don't see how one leads to the other. Perhaps you can explain that?