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    Oh thanks Kyuu saves me having to read it all Ok well that makes more sense, so really this is just a communication problem right!?
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    ^ In a nutshell, yes. On one side, flirting has consequences, agreed. On the other side, perception of what is misconstrued as flirting should not stop us from who people are.
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    Quote Originally Posted by kyuuei View Post
    ^ In a nutshell, yes. On one side, flirting has consequences, agreed. On the other side, perception of what is misconstrued as flirting should not stop us from who people are.

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    Yea to be honest I think we have miscommunication problems on more than one front... I thought we were meant to be good communicators... go figure
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    Quote Originally Posted by Wild horses View Post
    Yea to be honest I think we have miscommunication problems on more than one front... I thought we were meant to be good communicators... go figure
    It's because most people are bitter and jaded. And spend too much time watching TV.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Biaxident View Post
    It's because most people are bitter and jaded. And spend too much time watching TV.

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    You see..... This is what I tried to say in the first place.... I blame Oprah!
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    Quote Originally Posted by kyuuei View Post
    ^ I think this is the fulcrum of the entire thread. What we as ENFPs see as friendly and playful is not taken as that by other types and people around us.
    Well summarized.

    (And wow this thread has exploded - 325 replies in 24 hours!)

    Friendliness vs flirting ... my thoughts ...

    I do hear where both vantage points are coming from. I consider myself very friendly - live close to the I vs E axis. Doubtful anyone would think me introverted in the stereotypical sense.

    It is surprising to me on occasion how eye contact and hello with a smile can be construed / interpreted as flirting or romantic interest. When I sense someone is overestimating what I am offering though, I adjust my behaviour accordingly. I don't think it should change me being friendly, but at the same time it's not entirely fair for me to expect someone who doesn't have the same antenna I do to be able to accurately receive what I'm broadcasting.

    So, I just think when anyone realizes the signal they're sending is being picked up the wrong way, it is just easier to change the station on the radio.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bluemonday View Post

    I hate to be Synarch's wingman here, but he did actually reveal both here and in another rather heart-warming post on a similar thread that he has "seen the light" regarding this issue.
    Yeah, he did, and I did take that into account--I had just noticed that, since he had become rather hard-line about NOT flirting, and making sure the ENFPs were always aware of how they could be perceived or misconstrued, that he could actually be accused of the same thing (perhaps without even realizing). It's that line between perception and intent.

    I do think some personalities need more interaction and feedback than others do. And some people, to me, anyway, would have to completely change their personalities in order to satisfy the "can't-even-remotely-be-construed-as-flirting" criteria.
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    Gah! Now it all makes sense! The irrational posturing! The high-handed moralizing! The judgmental condemnation!

    Just like those "born again" street preachers!

    Gah!

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