^ I think this is the fulcrum of the entire thread. What we as ENFPs see as friendly and playful is not taken as that by other types and people around us.
(And wow this thread has exploded - 325 replies in 24 hours!)
Friendliness vs flirting ... my thoughts ...
I do hear where both vantage points are coming from. I consider myself very friendly - live close to the I vs E axis. Doubtful anyone would think me introverted in the stereotypical sense.
It is surprising to me on occasion how eye contact and hello with a smile can be construed / interpreted as flirting or romantic interest. When I sense someone is overestimating what I am offering though, I adjust my behaviour accordingly. I don't think it should change me being friendly, but at the same time it's not entirely fair for me to expect someone who doesn't have the same antenna I do to be able to accurately receive what I'm broadcasting.
So, I just think when anyone realizes the signal they're sending is being picked up the wrong way, it is just easier to change the station on the radio.
I hate to be Synarch's wingman here, but he did actually reveal both here and in another rather heart-warming post on a similar thread that he has "seen the light" regarding this issue.
Yeah, he did, and I did take that into account--I had just noticed that, since he had become rather hard-line about NOT flirting, and making sure the ENFPs were always aware of how they could be perceived or misconstrued, that he could actually be accused of the same thing (perhaps without even realizing). It's that line between perception and intent.
I do think some personalities need more interaction and feedback than others do. And some people, to me, anyway, would have to completely change their personalities in order to satisfy the "can't-even-remotely-be-construed-as-flirting" criteria.