First we need to define what's flirting and I think people's opinions about that differ so much that we couldn't even agree on that.
Purpose can be different in something that is intended to be flirting and something that is seen as flirting by some other people but that is not intended to be flirting.
# flirt: playful behavior intended to arouse sexual interest
# Flirting is a form of human interaction between two people, expressing a romantic and/or sexual interest. It can consist of conversation, body language, or brief physical contact. It may be one-sided or reciprocated.
So, by these definitions, would you want your SO flirting? I wouldn't.
"Create like a god, command like a king, work like a slave."
If it's someone like TucsonENTP.. someone who's very nature is flirtacious. He'll openly admit to flirting with 60 year old women that run stop-n-go stores. It takes two to tango, and I'd hate to try and change a man who is who he is.
On the other hand.. I think my flirting style DOES change when I'm in a relationship. I tend to cut things off if I feel they get too far, whereas I'd let it go on in a single lifestyle. If someone was flirting in a way that was the way I would *truly* flirt, I would be upset, yes.
I had a boyfriend that was hug and tell girls they were hawt and that he'd love to have this and that.. while I stood right there. Taking advantage of the fact that I'm not the jealous type is not a good idea. Nor is it a good thing to take advantage of my understanding. Trying to push my boundaries is one of my boundaries.
whoa...that's totally crossing the line. couldn't deal with that for one sec. being charming and complimentary is fine but don't try to really pick them up in a straight up sexual way.
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