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    Quote Originally Posted by Synarch View Post
    Flirting is not without consequence. This is a recent epiphany for me. I used to think it was harmless.
    Synarch makes a good point. There are sometimes consequences of flirting for the recipients... (and the initiators?)

    So what is the PURPOSE of flirting?

    Attention? Fun? To communicate affection? Entertainment? Ego boost? Flattery? This is where people get hurt - when the intentions of the flirting are incorrectly interpreted...

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    Quote Originally Posted by seeker22 View Post
    Synarch makes a good point. There are sometimes consequences of flirting for the recipients... (and the initiators?)

    So what is the PURPOSE of flirting?

    Attention? Fun? To communicate affection? Entertainment? Ego boost? Flattery? This is where people get hurt - when the intentions of the flirting are incorrectly interpreted...
    First we need to define what's flirting and I think people's opinions about that differ so much that we couldn't even agree on that.

    Purpose can be different in something that is intended to be flirting and something that is seen as flirting by some other people but that is not intended to be flirting.

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    Quote Originally Posted by alcea rosea View Post
    First we need to define what's flirting and I think people's opinions about that differ so much that we couldn't even agree on that.

    Purpose can be different in something that is intended to be flirting and something that is seen as flirting by some other people but that is not intended to be flirting.
    # flirt: playful behavior intended to arouse sexual interest
    wordnet.princeton.edu/perl/webwn

    # Flirting is a form of human interaction between two people, expressing a romantic and/or sexual interest. It can consist of conversation, body language, or brief physical contact. It may be one-sided or reciprocated.
    en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Flirting

    So, by these definitions, would you want your SO flirting? I wouldn't.
    "Create like a god, command like a king, work like a slave."

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    Hmmm... I also think flirting depends on the STATE of the recipient...

    To make an analogy... Take food for example. If your kitchen cupboards are full of food, and someone offers you some - you won't jump at it.

    If, however, your kitchen cupboards are empty and you have no food - you WILL LUNGE for the food!

    The same could be said of flirting. The recipient's "state," WILL dictate their response and interpretation.

    Yes? No?

    So where does the RESPONSIBILITY lie? The initiator or the recipient?

    Can a flirt really control how someone interprets their remarks?

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    Quote Originally Posted by seeker22 View Post
    Hmmm... I also think flirting depends on the STATE of the recipient...

    To make an analogy... Take food for example. If your kitchen cupboards are full of food, and someone offers you some - you won't jump at it.

    If, however, your kitchen cupboards are empty and you have no food - you WILL LUNGE for the food!

    The same could be said of flirting. The recipient's "state," WILL dictate their response and interpretation.

    Yes? No?

    So where does the RESPONSIBILITY lie? The initiator or the recipient?

    Can a flirt really control how someone interprets their remarks?
    If I jerk you off and you get hard, where does the responsibility lie?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Synarch View Post
    If I jerk you off and you get hard, where does the responsibility lie?
    In your hands
    Too easy, I know
    I N V I C T U S

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    Quote Originally Posted by Thursday View Post
    In your hands
    Too easy, I know
    Haha. Clever.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Thursday View Post
    In your hands
    Too easy, I know

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    Quote Originally Posted by kyuuei View Post
    THis is a good point.

    If it's someone like TucsonENTP.. someone who's very nature is flirtacious. He'll openly admit to flirting with 60 year old women that run stop-n-go stores. It takes two to tango, and I'd hate to try and change a man who is who he is.

    On the other hand.. I think my flirting style DOES change when I'm in a relationship. I tend to cut things off if I feel they get too far, whereas I'd let it go on in a single lifestyle. If someone was flirting in a way that was the way I would *truly* flirt, I would be upset, yes.

    I had a boyfriend that was hug and tell girls they were hawt and that he'd love to have this and that.. while I stood right there. Taking advantage of the fact that I'm not the jealous type is not a good idea. Nor is it a good thing to take advantage of my understanding. Trying to push my boundaries is one of my boundaries.
    whoa...that's totally crossing the line. couldn't deal with that for one sec. being charming and complimentary is fine but don't try to really pick them up in a straight up sexual way.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Synarch View Post
    If I jerk you off and you get hard, where does the responsibility lie?
    Just because you jerk off, doesn't NECESSARILY mean I would get aroused. That's my point. Depends on the recipient.

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