Like attracts like. Non serious people end up being taken for granted. People who flirt a lot will attract people who just don't take them seriously or who cannot assert what they feel is right. That's the truth of the matter. And rather sad as well.
If like attracts like, then no one would be taken for granted because in essence, they would want the same things.
True enough. But, before we argue further, do you believe in the concept of a healthy dynamic? Or, are all consensual dynamics healthy to you?
Honestly, I don't know what's healthy or not - I don't even know what the baseline for comparison is. I don't know what the end result should be either. You see "health" in a way that I have a hard time grasping, and vice versa. So I'm inclined to think that there is no true method or recipe for it.
I just know what makes me feel anxious and what makes me feel comfortable around another human being. With some people, I am more sensitive to certain things, where I would grant a pass for the same thing with another person.
I dunno. When I am with someone I tend to dig, I assume this is Ne. I imagine ENFP are similar. If both people are Ne'ing the other, I don't think this would be appealing for either. Someone would have to be the more passive party.
"Create like a god, command like a king, work like a slave."