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    Senior Member JivinJeffJones's Avatar
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    Default INFJ vs INFP -- which is more forgiving?

    I've been thinking about this for a while now. What do you think? Let's assume we're speaking of reasonably "healthy" (whatever that means) representatives of both types.

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    I think INFP is more likely to say they forgive you, but will probably hold onto that moment forever where it will come back to haunt you someday.

    INFJs are probably less forgiving, but are less likely to hold a grudge.

    imo

    I think this is an Fi vs Fe thing
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    As an INFP, I forgive & move on relatively easily, but past-hurts do come up sometimes. It's less of a grudge against another as a memory that pains me.

    When I do hold a grudge, then it's bad & never dies . It's usually the result of no action taken to make amends; time does not heal wounds in that case, not for me.
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    I work with an INFP and every day I purposefully try to offend him just to then try to seek forgiveness. It works every single time.

    Either that or I pretend to be offended by something he does and then seek an apology.

    INFPs are like an emotional sponge a manipulative person can soak or wring dry at will for their own pleasure. So I'd say INFP.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mort Belfry View Post
    Either that or I pretend to be offended by something he does and then seek an apology.
    Really? It's hard to get an apology out of me (because I am always right anyway, muwhaha). "I'm sorry" only crosses my lips for minor offenses like bumping into someone.
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    Okay, maybe it's not the verbal "I'm sorry" but if I go really quiet for long enough and pretend to be mad sooner or later he'll try to get a warm response out of me.

    But I read apologies into things like singing songs about me.
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    Depends on the relations involved.

    An INFP in love would be very forgiving towards their partner. Whereas an INFJ might go around killing you instead.

    Just my two cents, don't do anything that needs forgiving. They're at their best then.
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    INFJ view of it: For good or bad, I can't stay mad / hold a grudge / not forgive when forgiveness is pleaded. When my trust has been betrayed, I will probably show it much more intensely than an INFP, but when the emotion cools down, it's gone. It doesn't mean it couldn't take a long time if the betrayal has been severe, but I tend to forgive, cause I don't feel the emotion for long and I can understand the justifications for the person's actions. Not to say there are things that I would probably never be able to forgive - haven't come across for anything like that, but it'd prolly have to do with my values or if the person violates that trust in the first place over and over again and uses my forgiviness that way. I think.

    I think it's a Fi Fe thing. When ISFP and I have fights, she tends to hold on grudges for a long time, probably forever, although she will always forgive if you mean the sorry - but I think she has some sort of map inside of her head which has blueprints of our every fight.

    But I kind of agree with the poll - INFPs are probably more forgiving. Yes.

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    Ha! I am the queen of "un-forgiveness"! Again, not because I am out to get you. Because I just kind of...never get over things. Sometimes, they randomly crawl back to haunt me and I need to get away. I never let you know you've hurt me that badly, I'll shrug it off in front of you for decency's sake. I find my clinging to past hurts pretty unproductive, kind of immature and also not acceptable. I'm way too easily hurt, it's actually embarrassing.
    Besides I tend not to forgive myself either(not sure if it's an INFP thing). Maybe INFJs forgive themselves better and can therefore move on faster as well?
    But I really feel that OrangeAppled was spot on for me.(Psht, of course we're always right
    Sometimes I feel like I'm "on Mercury"-
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    I'll forgive but things will never be the same again. There will always be a part of me that is mistrustful and cautious, even if I try to shake it off.
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