[NF] NFs: Reality hits, do you hit back or give the other cheek?

[cascadeco]

Well, in response to cascadem and kyrielle: the example is too personal to be laid out in the open. I haven't "digested" well to be honest and now, I'm about to "vomit"all over the place. That's about the best way to describe it.

Oh, sorry - just to clarify, I wasn't seeking out specifics from you. I was just commenting that without specifics my answer is going to be general and more vague. I totally understand not wanting to divulge on the situation. After all, this is a public arena!

 

[Domino]

Even without the specifics, I think we get what you mean, Dwigie. I hope everything returns to equilibrium for you. *hug*

 

[OrangeAppled]

When reality hits, if it is unfavorable, I will probably retreat and wallow for a bit (sometimes a looong while), then the imagination kicks back in. My imagination and capability to think of so many possibilities usually brings me through and gets me to hit back in a sense.

Sometimes I simply come to terms with reality when it seems to present a brick wall, and then I readjust my goals and move on to other avenues that still have possibilities.

For instance, if I am not happy with the reality of one area in my life, say my job, then I will focus my thoughts on another area, say my relationships. In the meantime, I recharge so maybe I can take another stab at what I seemed to give up on, since over time reality will change & a door may open up.