The one where he broke up with me, I didn't understand it, because things were going really well (turned out to be factors he couldn't really control). I was really upset and confused for a bit. I worried what I did wrong, but I got over it pretty quickly.
The second one, I broke up with him. It was HORRIBLE. Probably because he was a great person. He just didn't call me on my bullshit, and something about it didn't work. I didn't feel like myself. I feel horrid about this time period, because looking back I feel like I picked fights to start the break up process. He'd apologize for almost no reason which would make me less happy with myself, ergo making me like the relationship less. Eventually I had to tell him that it wasn't working. I really tried to fix it, but I feel like I just dragged things out so i wouldn't have to face them head on .