Edit: I've just recalled something. Several yrs ago I was in a relationship with an ENFJ in his upper 30's, and he was only then getting to the point where it was dawning on him that it was 'Ok' to make time for himself, and not feel obligated to help and attend to everyone's emotional and physical/tangible needs he came into contact with. Just to let people go and not get sucked into everything..and being ok with not being the mentor/helper for anybody and everybody. He had a harder time just 'letting go'. It's probably more of an individualized thing with FJ's in terms of when they reach that point, and it would be more problematic for the extroverts.