It says in the description of ENFPs that we are "attachment prone." I know this is definitely true of me. Understand that of course it applies only to a select few special people. And, I almost always care more about the relationship than they do (passion, baby!).
I am in a very transitory period of life and find that my relationships change a lot. It's interesting because while I really like change (and get bored otherwise), I still value the stability of certain people (I like) in my life. It's really hard on me when they leave, especially when it dawns on me that I am almost always more invested than they are.
Also, I have noticed a pattern that this is really only with Ts. Is it because of the challenge? I'm not sure. I do really usually prefer the company of Ts and I adore the ones who are detached. However, it always ends up hurting me in the end! It seems so stupid. I hate being attached and really do envy that detachment/apathetic quality, and I feel almost like my attachment is a negative quality or one that I wish I did not have. I don't like feeling weak and vulnerable! It's gross.
It seems like it's harder than it should be. And, it makes me wonder if it's a ENFP thing that I should accept or if it is something that I can get rid of. Practically, I know how I should be able to be healthy in this area of my life (assuming that how I attach now is not) and I can tell myself it, but I don't really believe it.
What do you think?