Haha, do you like my imposing thread title?
It's not so imposing, after all -- trust me.
Really, I just want you to tell me why you are the way you are.
I have some questions:
1. Top three adjectives to characterize yourself on your best days.
2. Top three adjectives to characterize yourself on your worst days.
3. Favorite type for romantic interest, and why.
4. Can someone explain my ENFJ ex (of four years ago - so no longer any animosity or baggage, just curiosity towards him)? I realize he was highly unhealthy and think y'all are a wonderful lot so I don't want you to think I'm attacking the type itself, but I still want some clarification.
a. he claimed he worshipped me, but at the same time he criticized every little thing I did that he didn't like, quite vocally.
b. when we broke up, he demanded back all of his letters, and even the painting he gave me which I loved.
c. after we broke up he hid from me when I came to pick up my electric toothbrush from his mother's house where he still lived at 33.
d. he spent two out of the four years of our relationship playing online role-playing games OR dungeons & dragons with his best friend down the street 24-7, literally. when I asked him to spend more time with me, he got angry.
e. his emails would seem quite manipulative emotionally during times we were broken up... melodrama about how bad I made him feel but with no conclusive evidence WHY, leaving me confused and feeling sorry for... *nothing?*
f. broke up with me about 30 times and after four years together didn't want any kind of commitment beyond bf/gf, but when I finally wouldn't go back with him after the last time then he asked me to marry him.
g. constantly asked me what I was thinking/feeling and I could never satisfy him with the "right" answer; he would get really mad at me every time I replied because it wasn't what he wanted out of me, I guess.
Again the above is very negative -- I should mention he was a good artist and a very sweet person, at the core. But I'm not criticizing. I'm curious why the enigmatic behavior? Is it type-related or his shadow side?
Thanks ENFJs who can answer me these questions. I love figuring out people and types!