Limerent fantasy is unsatisfactory unless rooted in reality, because the fantasizer may want the fantasy to seem realistic and somewhat possible.
Otherwise, the long fantasy is anticipatory; it begins in the everyday world and climaxes at the attainment of the limerent goal. A limerent fantasy can also involve an unusual, often tragic, event.
The long fantasies form bridges between the limerent's ordinary life and that intensely desired ecstatic moment. The duration and complexity of a fantasy depend on the availability of time and freedom from distractions. The bliss of the imagined moment of consummation is greater when events imagined to precede it are possible.
In fact they often represent grave departures from the probable.
This makes complete sense to me. I didn't know it was strange to have those kind of fantasies... I have found myself getting to a point where I can see progression in the relationship, but it's not enough to make me reassured. I think that the "daydream"-like fantasies that are grounded in reality are really a tool to feel more secure with the progression of the relationship...
But yes i'm very familiar with that feeling. I can't even remember the last time i wasn't... limerating
ik sprokkel wat dagen, drop baggage,
soms heb ik geen zin om die koffers te dragen,
ik laat los, los het op, word onzichtbaar
en geef de buitenlucht wat ruimte terug
dus.. nu zit ik op m'n fiets alsof het niets is,
maar niets kan toch niet uit zichzelf pedalen laten draaien?
Isn't this essentially just another term for infatuation?
I think we've all been there at some point or another.
That's what I thought. I was trying to figure out what the difference was. I'm guessing this is just another common, normal human condition that we've come to describe as a malady because it's irrational.
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