That's a really good point about gender roles, I hadn't thought much about the effect of gender roles and MBTI. I've read ENFJ males are only 1% of population. I wonder what the effect of that low number is?
Do you think that one of the problems in identifying ENFJs in the wild is because Fe can focus in so many different directions? I've often thought that Fe is like water and can be flavored with anything. Like a powdered drink mix that is distinctly one taste that everyone can agree it is. This is cherry flavored and this is grape.
I don't feel like a particularly romantic or lovey dovey type of Fe dominant full of poetry with a sunny face to the world. Nor do feel very motherish or like I need to look after people to make sure they're OK or take care of their feelings that much.
I feel like my Fe is more politically and socially focused. Not politics in the sense that I'm following governmental politics because honestly I don't know WTF is going on. Or social in that I'm organizing parties for friends to get together. Social in terms of social justice or social movements and political in the sense that I want to understand how we organize ourselves together, what forces are at work, how we decided what is beneficial/pernicious to the Group, and how to navigate through oceans of humanity.
Maybe part of the problem with finding ENFJs is because people are looking for the benevolent mother/father figure which seems to be the most prominent stereotype of ENFJs (and ESFJs) and miss the other flavors because of this.
Which flavor of ENFJ do you think you are? Do you identify with the mother/father figure type of ENFJ or something else?
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