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    Cool Dating advice

    I am an ISFJ and am also a new member. I recently have been going with this girl for about a month now and she just revealed to me she is an INFJ. As I read about it more, it's a rare personality type. What would be some of the ways I could connect with her more and show that I care about her to bring things to a deeper level? I have a masters degree in public administration and a bachelors degree in interdisciplinary studies w/ a minor in public administration. She has a masters degree in English Lit and was a double major in English and Religious Studies. She is slow to open up but I think things are going pretty well so far. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.


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    Hi there! Nice to meet you. I'm finishing my MPA at FSU real soon. My wife is an INFJ. They are a rare type, and have some really unique personality traits that are best if you understand what they are and they can manifest. Have you read any personality profiles of INFJ's or yours?

    INFJ - Jung Type Descriptions

    ISFJ - Jung Type Descriptions

    Also, have you checked out what your MBTI compatibility is on Socionics.com?

    Relations between Psychological ("personality") Types

    and then...

    Comparative relations between psychological ("personality") types

    Of course none of this stuff can you tell you how two real people are going to interact/relate to each other spot on, but it is interesting stuff to ponder on. Read it, think it over, follow your gut instincts, and enjoy your time together. Good luck!

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    Honestly.. I think best thing to do? Be yourself.. That's a way of honoring yourself in a relationship and honoring the other person. If you can't be honest/be yourself, then perhaps it's not a good match.

    Treat each relationship like it's trial and error. Respect boundaries. Give a person space when necessary.

    Keep it basic. Have FUN.

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    What attracts THIS infj whether it is for friendship or more...

    People who are passionate about their careers or some hobby even if we don't share that interest...

    People who are genuine, honest, sincere. People who are well-read, cultured, appreciate music...

    People who are not pushy.

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    Always slap on the fourth date. It keeps things interestin'

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    Quote Originally Posted by nebbykoo View Post
    Always slap on the fourth date. It keeps things interestin'
    BWAAAHHH!!!! Spoken like a true romantic! Sick-O!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Halla74 View Post
    BWAAAHHH!!!! Spoken like a true romantic! Sick-O!!!
    What, you're not romantic?
    "..And the eight and final rule: If this is your first time at Fight Club, you have to fight."
    'Men are meant to be with women. The rest is perversion and mental illness.'

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    Quote Originally Posted by armyrebel4 View Post
    I am an ISFJ and am also a new member. I recently have been going with this girl for about a month now and she just revealed to me she is an INFJ.
    First of all, Good idea to bring this one up!

    Perhaps thanking her for mentioning it to you and that you are genuinely interested in continuing about her being an INFJ. That's a special thing...so perhaps she would comment more about herself...that way you get what you both need right from her..I mean Alex is probably right...typematching is pretty close, but this would allow you both to custom-taylor your relationship which would allow you to accentuate the good things and avoid pitfalls which we all struggle amongst.

    Good luck!
    "..And the eight and final rule: If this is your first time at Fight Club, you have to fight."
    'Men are meant to be with women. The rest is perversion and mental illness.'

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    Quote Originally Posted by Halla74 View Post
    Also, have you checked out what your MBTI compatibility is on Socionics.com?
    Socionics.com sucks imo.

    Use Wikisocion for all your Socionics needs.

    Of course, I'd suggest not messing around with Socionics at all.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Costrin View Post
    Socionics.com sucks imo.

    Use Wikisocion for all your Socionics needs.

    Of course, I'd suggest not messing around with Socionics at all.

    Actually, I agree with you regarding Socionics' personality type descriptions (notice I didn't put links up to them), but have note seen any other site that had intertype relations theorized. Their ESTP description SUCKS. (imo)

    Any tips for that sort of info, Costrin???

    Will look at Wikisocion site now...

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