"People with developed Fe tend to create implied bargains with other people about what sort of role they will play in regard to each other. They make an opening "bid" where they cast the other person in a positive role, e.g. "Would you be willing to spare a moment of your time to share your expertise with me?", casting the other person as an expert and a very important person. The implied contract is that if they treat you as a very important person, then you will each have very satisfying social roles. But if you get out of line, then you will withdraw your willingness to cast them in that role. Each line where you play the other person up thus creates a sort of debt: now they "owe" you some response that makes you important."
After a few interactions with ENFJs I often start to make them a little batty. They become very irritated with me and then seem confused why I just dont get it. I found the above qoute and I wonder if it is becuase I feel no need to fit in a consistant "social role". I sort of wonder and change identity like underwear as needed. So they start off assigning me a role, I inadvertantly modify my role, whcih offends them, then they zoom in for reassignment, which I just ignore.
I also then "feel" this assignment process and it gets my hackles up in arms. It feels manipulative to me.