I tried that and it didn't work very well. I finally decided that the problem was that it's hard to meet people by going home and reading after work -- believe it or not, in the last year, exactly zero attractive young women broke into my apartment to introduce themselves to me! So, now I make a point of doing at least one thing every week where I'm likely to meet new people, such as going out to a show by a local band. I'm assuming that for ENFPs, such people-meeting activities are included in "live your life, enjoy being single."
Originally Posted by Elaur
^ I like this post.
Yes, i have noticed this issue as well...
Also, tai chi wasn't the way to meet people my age...
Yoga, people are all older or leave RIGHT after class, no "social openings" per se...
Being single sucks... I really just want intimacy.
But I decided to do something about it. I met a girl in my history class... it was on the first day of the semester start. I was walking to my class, and I noticed her carrying a large backpack, so I waited and held the door for her. She thanked me and we locked eyes... man she's pretty (in my eyes). Doesn't try to look sexually appealing... which is highly appealing to me (I've never seen her cleavage the whole time I've known her... <3). After I held the door for her I went to my class, and we just so happened to be in the same one, so I sat next to her, and we started to talk. We always have something to talk about it seems, which is very nice.
I started talking to her last month, and last Monday I got up the courage to ask her on a date, and she accepted gladly. Now we just have to plan on a date and something to do...
I'm pretty sure she's an INTP.
So get yourselves out there! Things can happen. You carve your own destiny to an extent, have as much influence on it as you can!
There you go BC, well on your way. Stuff like that always tempts me back to school, but I refuse to go back just for that reason alone. If I'm spending my money like that I want to be getting into something I really want to do for a good portion of my life.
Dreams are best served manifest and tangible.
INFP, 6w7, IEI
I accept no responsibility, what so ever, for the fact that I exist; I do, however, accept full responsibility for what I do while I exist.
Same here. I'm single and have never been exactly prolific on the dating scene. The conclusion I've come to is that you can't let your happiness be determined by others. Obvious enough, but how many people accept this fact?
I try to find fulfillment in pursuing the things that inspire me, travelling and meeting new people, giving to others, revelling in great works of art (whatever form they may take), seeking self-improvement and self-knowledge, and expanding my mind. You have to be active in these prusuits because stagnancy is a serious dangerous place for NFPs. Keep moving and moving forward, this eases the pain and helps give you direction and meaning.
this is how i feel right now too.
relationships are great but you gotta learn to be happy and motivated on your own.