This is my first post on this site.
I am one of those rare INFJ males who is in a relationship with another INFJ female.
There are many reasons why I really like this girl, and we are certainly never bored. We have a lot of potential, I feel.
One concern that I have is regarding conflict management. It seems that we both are very melancholy and sensitive to even the slightest intonation of disapproval. We keep having these communication issues. Based on the INFJ type, I'm thinking it is because we are trying to use our intuition to interpret communication, rather than trust the verbal source. However, if we are both relying on body language to sense the feelings of the other, I'm concerned that we will continually pull each other into these downward quagmires. It seems like one person needs to be able to just "shut off" their intuition and say, "No big deal. He/She will get over it." That would help diffuse things. I think we just need a mechanism to signal to both of us: "This is one of those issues. You don't need to worry about the other person's withdrawn attitude right now."
And how healthy is it anyway, for two INFJs to be so serious? I think we both need to lighten up.
So I am just hoping someone here has some advice for us. If there are any resources online about two INFJs getting along, that would be great. We certainly must be a very rare mix.
Also, I found the site from this thread: