O.K. So, I'm an INFP, and my whole life I've had the built-in approval seeking mechanic in my personality. Meaning, if I pay close attention to my interactions with other people, I can always discern my communication being motivated by the desire to win over the other person. You know, to get their approval and have them smiling back at me.
But, I hate it. I mean, I love being sensitive to others, caring about them, and "healing" them. But there's a point at which it must stop, and your own personality must begin. Taken to the extreme and I sometimes get too afraid to voice my own opinion or argue with others if I think they'll be upset with me.
Does anyone know how to become more independently confident, more assertive, and more self-approving?