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    So I was talking to my mom about this terrible teacher I have, and how he was yelling at this girl and it really upset me. And after I get done explaining how terrible the teacher was, thinking that my mom is actually interested, she tells me that she was thinking about getting some depression medication for me, and told me that it's not normal to get so upset over things. And I was wondering, is this extreme empathy a personality thing, or is really abnormal? Do any other INFPs have problems with depression? I don't really think of myself as depressed... I do get depressed every now and then, but I'm generally a pretty happy person. It just seems like it's who I am. Things affect me really deeply, but that's just how I am. Ugh. Any thoughts?

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    INFP is the type that tends to empathize with greatest intensity. There is a slight tendency towards depression because as such a strongly Feeling oriented type the INFP longs to be close to others or to be accepted by them for the very least. However, because this type is intensely introverted, and unlike the FJs does not easily conform to the social norms, the INFP often does not get the results he/she wants in that regard.

    Also, because the Thinking faculty of the INFP is the most supressed of all types, he/she struggles to efficiently solve problems, even the most basic ones, that are necessary to solve in order to avoid stress. Note, in order for us to be at peace, we must believe that our environment is orderly and predictable. Because the INFP tends to struggle with Thinking (especially the young ones), they have a difficult time organizing their environment and making it predictable. Thus, they are prone to stress.

    However, INFPs who are in a congenial social environment (for instance, those who have supportive friends or family) or those who make it a point to cultivate their Thinking faculty avoid depression more easily.

    So, being an INFP does not entail depression, yet this type has inclinations towards depression that are more pronounced than such inclinations of other types.

    In your case, it is unclear that you are depressed. It is very normal for INFPs to feel that strongly about such situations due to the natural intense sensitivity of this type. The incident that you have cited does not show that you are depressed. You are depressed only if you have consistently been in a negative emotive state for multiple months and such a state of mind appears to be completely uncaused, or seems to have almost nothing to do with your circumstances. Or, for the very least if it is clear that your unfavorable external circumstances could not have inflicted such intense harm upon you.

    In short depression is an internally rooted tendency to experience intensely negative circumstances. (It is not the same thing as feeling deeply disturbed as a result of having something upsetting happen to you)
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    I think she just thought I was depressed because I tend to react very strongly to things, in both extremes. From what you said, it seems like that's not depression, just me being the strange person I am I think that the idea of medication "fixing" me just seemed strange. It's like "fixing" my personality. Thanks for the input, it helped.

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    now i had to actually see the teacher to assess if your emotional response was beyond the norm or not.
    unless your mother's speciality is in psychology or somethings its hard to trust her diagnosis completely.

    from what i'm getting right now, you just got moody. Which is no problem, some people are more emotional than others. Along as it doesn't interfere with daily activity is fine.

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    haha. I guess moody doesn't require medication Really, though, I think it was just about how I react to things in general. Like when the teacher was yelling at that poor girl, I felt like crying myself. And how I cry at people's funerals, even if I didn't really know the person. Just stuff like that. My mom did major in psychology, though...

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    Just about every INFP, and maybe every NF, that I know has been told they were depressed at one point or another. I think this is a matter of other people not understanding the emotional nature of an NF, and thinking it needs to be fixed.

    Emotions are fuel that motivate people. Emotions are not the problem, and it is not a matter of learning how to suppress them. Rather it is about learning what the emotions are trying to tell us.

    Serious depression is of course a medical condition, and is much different than being an emotional person. Only a professional would be able to diagnose that.

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    yeah, that sounds right. Just another thing to be misunderstood about :P That kind of helps to know that part of it is just my personality.

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    majoring in psychology doesn't mean she is at all qualified to diagnose something like depression. imo, meds should be a last resort.

    teens tend to be moody anyway, so if that's all it is then it is normal. here is a brief article that discusses the topic:
    Why teens are moody | Milestones :: All about kids at Geo Parent .com

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    ENFPs are more prone to depression than INFPs, because ENFPs relieve stress and problems through talking about it to others, and resolving these conflicts, and are changed by their environment, and often times they will be in a depressing environment and won't have anyone to talk to, leading to a depressive state. INFPs can manage things by themselves on the inside better, and don't need people to talk to-only solitude, which isn't hard for them to attaine. However, in no way do INFPs not get depressed- as they do quite often, but I'd think ENFPs would be more prone.
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    I'd argue that INFPs are more easily influenced by their environment than ENFPs because they tend to be more emotionally involved. Fi gives only an illusory perception of one's ability to work problems out internally. It merely processes emotions internally, but does not get the necessary closure to properly 'work them out'.

    In order to properly work through them or to relieve stress, one simply needs to see light at the end of the tunnel. This is to be received either by getting affirmation from others, or by solving the problem that is the source of grief. Fi alone does neither. The ENFP on the other hand more easily receives affirmation from others for the reasons that you have mentioned and is more in tune with the faculty of Thinking which renders problem solving easier.

    On that note I'd say the ENFP is less prone to depression than the INFP.
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